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Accepting Cancelled Holiday Gatherings

Life is unpredictable, and there are so many events and situations we can’t control.

The good news is, we can control how we react to those events and how we look at them.

You Can’t Force Feelings

Even though we can try and change our mindset and attitude, we can’t actually prevent feelings or turn them off in the blink of an eye.

“You feel how you feel, and your feelings are real.” – Sven

It’s one thing to try to challenge negative emotions.

But it’s quite another to ignore them and pretend they don’t exist.

If you’ve been feeling sad or disappointed over not being able to spend the holidays with loved ones in person, that is completely okay. 

Never be ashamed of how you feel. We all experience negative emotions and it’s completely normal. 

Acceptance + Compassion

We get it. Accepting a negative event isn’t always easy, but it is possible.

Practicing self-compassion may not be able to eliminate pain, but it can build resilience and boost optimism.

Looking For The Silver Lining

Several studies show that it can be beneficial to look for silver linings during difficult situations. 

Here are a few silver linings of having small a Christmas this year…

1) You won’t have to spend hours on end cooking and cleaning.

2) You can spend quality one on one time with your immediate family. 

3) You can create new traditions.

Final Thoughts

As we stated earlier, there are plenty of things in life we can’t change. But we can change the stories we tell ourselves and look at things differently.

From our family to yours, we’d like to wish you all a very Happy Holidays!

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Letting go of Perfectionism During The Holidays

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Perfectionism and anxiety go hand and hand and are very common during the holidays.

Let us know if any of these scenarios sound familiar…

“What if my holiday party isn’t perfect?”

“What is my cousin hates her gift?”

“What if my holiday cards get lost in the mail?”

If any of those thoughts sound familiar, you may be experiencing holiday perfectionism.

The good news is, perfectionism does not have to last forever, and it can be significantly reduced.

Now, this won’t be an overnight transformation. It will take work and dedication, but you can achieve anything you set your mind to.

Nothing in Life is Perfect

No matter how talented you are in any given field, it is absolutely impossible to be perfect.

Life is full of ups and downs. Our days don’t always turn out as planned, and that is okay!

Memories Don’t Have to be Perfect in Order to be Special

Many of us tend to plan several activities throughout the holiday season. 

There is nothing wrong with having an itinerary and plan for the celebration. In fact, actually writing things down and working from a list can make things a lot easier.

You just have to remember one thing.

Chances are at least one thing on your list may get forgotten about.

We completely understand how that can be a little disappointing.

You just have to remind yourself, that everything will be just fine. 

Being Perfectly Imperfect

You know what they say. Great things come when you step outside your comfort zone.

This holiday season, challenge yourself to do a few things imperfectly and see what happens. 

  • Spread the icing on the cupcakes a little unevenly.
  • Skip the place cards at dinner this year. 
  • Don’t worry about decorating every single room in your home.

Those are just a few examples, but feel free to tweak them to fit your needs.

One of the best ways to overcome perfectionism is to embrace imperfectionism. 

The more you practice the easier it will become.

Keep in mind, you don’t have to implement all of these changes in one day. You can start slowly and work your way up. 

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