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How To Survive a Family Members Suicide

Losing a friend or family member to suicide can be extremely painful. It can bring on guilt, shame, anger, depression or anxiety.

We all deal with loss in our own way, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Losing someone you love is never easy. However, losing someone you love to suicide can be a little more challenging.

It may take you some time, but you will get through the pain. Here are some tips that can help you cope with your loss. 

Find A Support System:

Losing someone you love is extremely painful. But you don’t need to experience the pain alone.

Opening up to a friend, family member or mental health professional can be very therapeutic. Talking about our feelings can help us better understand them and feel less alone.

You can also do some research and see if there any support groups in your area. Even though you may feel alone, you are not!

Be Patient:

Some days may be harder than others, and that’s okay. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to feel. 

It’s Okay to Laugh And Cry:

You know what they say – laughter is the best medicine. Participating in fun activities with friends and family can act as a healthy distraction and help take your mind off the pain. 

Every day is a new day. And every day will get a little bit easier.

If you or someone you love are struggling with thoughts about harming themselves or others, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

You can also text the Crisis Text Line at: 741741

Text Line is free and available 24/7 to support those in crisis anywhere in the U.S.

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Preventing Suicide In Older Adults

Social distancing is designed to keep us and our community safe. However, social distancing is increasing loneliness for people all over the world – especially in older adults. Older adults who are disconnected from others do have a greater risk for committing suicide. 

However, there are plenty of tools and resources out there that can help us prevent suicide in older adults.

Understand The Risk Factors:

Several studies show that the following factors can contribute to suicide in older adults.

1) Mental health conditions, such as anxiety or depression.

2) Being alone for long periods.

3) Pain.

4) Illness.

Warning Signs:

If you think someone you love may be contemplating suicide, here are a handful of warning signs you should look out for.

1) Significant life changes, such as the death of a loved one.

2) Preparing for death. 

3) Isolating from friends and family.

Afraid To Say The Wrong Thing?

Talking about suicide can be scary. So many people are afraid to say the wrong thing, so they don’t say anything at all.

It may be scary, but talking about our feelings can help us better understand them.  If you’re not sure what to say, here are a few questions that can help you get started:

1) How often are you alone?

2) Have you had thoughts about harming yourself?

3) Do you ever feel like just giving up?

If you or someone you love are struggling with thoughts about harming themselves or others, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

You can also text the Crisis Text Line at: 741741

Text Line is free and available 24/7 to support those in crisis anywhere in the U.S. 

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Why Working Parents Are Angry, And What They Can Do About It

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Calling all working parents… this article is for you!

If you’ve been working from home these past six months and have little kids at home, you know how tiring it can be.

Having conference calls and watching a toddler at the same time can be challenging. 

By this point, almost all of us have been interrupted during important meetings at least once!  So many parents have been struggling to entertain and educate their children at home while also working a 9-5 job. 

All that additional responsibility can be frustrating and lead to anger. Anger is not a fun feeling. But it is completely normal and can even be useful. 

Anger is designed to keep us safe and encourage action! However, too much of anything is not healthy.

There are plenty of mindset shifts that can help us deal with anger in healthy ways. But today we are going to talk about acceptance! Accepting anger does not mean ignoring it. It means coming to terms with situations out of our control.

Remember, not every problem can be solved, and that’s okay. The sooner we understand that, the sooner we can move on.

We can also try and listen to what our anger is telling us and challenge our thoughts. Just because we can’t change a certain situation doesn’t mean we can’t change the way we think about it. If you’ve made it this far, you’re already on the right track! You may be feeling a little apprehensive or angry right now, but every day will get easier. Learn More

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Helping Your Child Succeed And Have Fun While Distance Learning This Year

Want your child to have a successful and fun school year while distance learning? Well, it’s easier than you may think. Keep reading to learn more. 

Set Up A Distraction-Free Workspace

If your child’s study room turned into yet another playroom, there is no need to worry. Transforming it back into a study room is an easy fix.

Having a designated school zone can help your child concentrate, be creative, and have fun!

Keep in mind; they don’t need an entire home office space to themselves to be successful. You can set up a desk for them in the hallway, guest room, or bonus room. When they take a break, encourage them to step away from the desk and go into another room.

This will help their brain better understand that their desk is designed for homework and other areas of the home are designed for play.

Encourage Conversation 

Sometimes kids and teens can have a hard time opening up and coming to terms with their emotions. It’s like when you ask your child how their day at school was, and they reply with “fine.”

A great way to work around this is by asking them open-ended questions.

Here are a few examples.

1) How are you feeling about distant learning this year?

2) What are you most looking forward to experiencing this year?

3) How prepared do you feel for this year?

Say Goodbye to Multitasking 

No matter how simple or complex the task at hand may be, multitasking is not the answer.

When we multitask, we are much more likely to make careless mistakes along the way, which can significantly slow us down in the long run. 

Having multiple tabs open at once, texting, or listening to a podcast may feel like a good idea at the moment, but it can actually be very draining and stressful.

Be Flexible

The truth is, even the most thought out plans aren’t always a success. And that’s okay!

Of course, it’s always a good idea to set up a game plan at the start of the school year. 

But at the same time, none of us know for sure what this year will look like.

Every day is a new day, and we need to roll with the punches. It may be a challenge at first, but your child is resilient and they’ve got this! Learn More

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What Scientists Have To Say About Boredom And The Brain

Think about it. Your brain never gets a day off.  Every single day our brain works hard to listen, make decisions, and keep us safe. The brain is so devoted to protecting us that it never takes a break.

Even when we’re sleeping, our brain is still running. Keep in mind that getting enough sleep is extremely important for our brain, and it’s health. When we don’t get enough sleep, the brain can’t function properly, which can lead to problems down the line. Believe it or not, sleep isn’t the only gift you can give your brain. 

Wondering what the other gift is?

If you guessed embracing boredom, you are correct!

Benefits of Embracing Boredom 

The idea of sitting down and doing nothing can seem quite counterintuitive. However, it can actually work wonders on our productivity.

When we are constantly on the go, we are much more likely to experience burnout and decision fatigue.

Several studies show that boredom can increase productivity and creativity. 

Just Be

When life gets busy sometimes, we can forget to take a minute to just be and do nothing. 

Many famous writers have said their best ideas have come to them while taking a shower or organizing the house.  It just goes to show how powerful the brain can be, and how ideas can come to us anytime. So many of us have a daily to-do list. But, it may be time to think outside the box and start a to-be-list. 

Taking a casual walk around the block or stretching for as little as 5 minutes a day can make a huge difference! What are you waiting for? It’s time to embrace boredom and give your brain the rest it needs. Learn More

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Changing The Way You Look At Online Dating

Due to COVID-19, many people think that dating just isn’t an option. But that is not the case whatsoever. 

Online dating is a fantastic way to meet new people and step outside of your comfort zone. 

We live in a world that is constantly changing, and people all over the world have met their partners through dating apps and websites.  

Even though dating apps have not been around for that long, they have many strong success stories. 

Next Steps

Keep in mind that relationships can’t stay online forever. 

Sometimes it’s easier to open up and form a connection online. You’d be surprised how well you can get to know someone by instant messaging. 

The thing is, sometimes, text messages can get misinterpreted along the way and our emotions can play tricks on us. 

Even if you’ve been talking to someone online for months, actually setting up an in-person date can be scary. 

Your Attitude Matters

Go into every date with an open mind, and remember there is no such thing as a bad date! 

The first date can go one of two ways. Either the two of you have a good time and make a plan to go out again.

Or you realize that the spark isn’t there and you walk away with a new friend.

Set Reasonable Expectations

Sometimes we can go into dates with very high expectations, which can bring on a lot of pressure and anxiety. There is no such thing as perfection, and no one is expecting you to be perfect. 

Dating Takes Patience

Remember, dating is a process, and there is no set in the stone rule book.

The best thing you can do is put yourself out there, keep an open mind, and have fun!

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Coping With Parenting Stress By Pressing The Pause Button

Being a parent is a full-time job. Although it’s very rewarding, it can also be quite stressful.

These past several months have been a lot to take in for both parents and children.

And now that back-to-school is just around the corner, both you and your child may be experiencing additional stress.

Whether your stress levels are high or low, taking just a few moments to pause every day can help you live in the moment and decrease stress.

Here are a few tips and tricks that can help you get started…

Prioritize:

There are only so many hours in a day to get things done. When life gets busy, we can often put our hobbies and/or passion projects on hold. 

Never feel guilty about practicing self-care and doing things that make you happy. 

Self-Compassion:

As a parent, it’s common to put your child’s needs before your own and put yourself last. 

At the end of the day, you have to be your own best friend – not your worst enemy.

Be kind to yourself. Give yourself some credit. You are doing the best you can.

Focus On The Here And The Now:

No matter what we say or do, we can’t change the past and we can’t predict the future.

Sometimes we can spend hours worrying about what may or may not happen tomorrow, instead of living in the moment and focusing on the now.

No one knows for sure what the rest of the year has in store for us. All we can do is spend time with loved ones, appreciate life and hit the pause button when we need to. Learn More

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