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Helping Your Child After the Silver Rail Shooting

A note to Bend parents

Our hearts ache after the events in our community on October 15. Every family in Bend is absorbing this, whether or not your child attends Silver Rail.

Your presence matters more than finding perfect words. Children take their cues from the adults closest to them. This guide gives you practical, age-specific ways to talk, listen, and restore a sense of safety over the coming days and weeks. You do not need to have answers. You need to be available, honest, and steady enough for your child to lean on.

Inside, you’ll find how to steady yourself first, how to talk with your child at each age, what to say and what to avoid, which reactions are normal, routines, media, and returning to school, when to get more help, guidance for community members without children, and local resources, including crisis lines, today’s free walk-in support, trauma response networks, and local counselors.

— Ryan Scott, PhD, Licensed Psychologist, and the team at Vista Counseling & Wellness Center

Start with yourself

Your child will read your nervous system before they hear your words. Steady yourself first, even briefly (American Psychological Association [APA], n.d.).

  1. Notice your own reactions. Shock, anger, numbness, and fear are all normal. Name them to yourself.
  2. Find an adult outlet. Talk with a partner, friend, or counselor out of your child’s earshot.
  3. Cover the basics. Eat, hydrate, and protect your sleep. Limit your own news scrolling.
  4. It is okay to show feeling. Saying “I’m sad too, and we’re going to be okay” models healthy grief. Visible panic or rage, on the other hand, frightens children.

Talking with your child, by age

Begin by asking what they have already heard, then correct misinformation and fill gaps simply. Let their questions set the depth (National Association of School Psychologists [NASP], n.d.; National Child Traumatic Stress Network [NCTSN], n.d.-b).

Age What they understand How to talk Sample words
Preschool (3–5) Little grasp of permanence; may think it could happen anywhere, anytime Brief, concrete, physical comfort; protect from images and adult conversations “Something very sad happened at a school. A person hurt some people. The grown-ups are working hard to keep you safe.”
Early elementary (6–8) Understands death is real; strong focus on “Am I safe? Are you safe?” Short facts, lots of reassurance; name the specific adults keeping them safe “Your teachers and the police have plans to protect kids. It’s very rare, even though it feels scary right now.”
Upper elementary (9–11) Wants facts and fairness; may fixate on details or hear rumors at school Answer honestly without graphic detail; ask what classmates are saying “What are kids saying about it? Let’s sort out what’s true.”
Middle school (12–14) Thinks about safety, injustice, and “why”; heavy social-media exposure Invite opinions; talk about what they’re seeing online; don’t force conversation “I’m not going to pretend this makes sense. What’s been on your mind?”
High school (15–18) Adult-level understanding; may feel anger, guilt, or a call to action. The shooter’s age may hit hard Treat as a partner; respect need for peers; watch for withdrawal or risk-taking “How are you and your friends doing with this? What would help?”

If your child knew a victim, was on campus, or lost a classmate, their needs are different and more acute. Prioritize professional support (see When to get more help).

What to say, and what to avoid

Honest, calm, and brief beats comprehensive. You can always return to the conversation (NASP, n.d.; Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration [SAMHSA], 2012).

Try Avoid
“I don’t know, but I’ll find out / let’s think about it together.” Making up answers or false promises (“This will never happen again”)
“You’re safe right now. Here’s who is keeping you safe.” Dismissing fear (“Don’t worry about it,” “Be brave”)
“It’s okay to feel scared, sad, mad, or nothing at all.” Telling a child how they should feel
Using the real words: died, killed, shooting Euphemisms like “went to sleep” or “lost,” which confuse young children
“You can ask me anything, anytime.” Forcing a talk or pressing for feelings
Focusing on the helpers: teachers, police, medics, the neighbor who intervened Repeating graphic details, the shooter’s name, or speculation about motive

Expect the same questions repeatedly, especially from younger children. Repetition is how they make sense of something overwhelming; answer patiently and consistently each time.

What reactions are normal

Most children show some stress reactions in the first few weeks, and most improve with time, routine, and connection (NCTSN, n.d.-a; SAMHSA, 2012). Reactions may appear right away or surface days later.

  • Younger children: clinginess, separation fears, bedwetting, thumb-sucking, tantrums, repeating the event in play or drawings
  • School-age children: trouble sleeping, nightmares, stomachaches and headaches, fear of going to school, irritability, difficulty concentrating
  • Teens: withdrawal, anger, numbness, guilt, changes in eating or sleep, more time online, risk-taking, or intense focus on activism and “fixing” it
  • Any age: jumpiness at loud noises, fire drills, lockdown drills, or sirens

Respond with patience, not correction. Extra closeness, a night-light, or a parent nearby at bedtime for a while is appropriate and temporary.

Routines, media, and returning to school

Predictable routines are one of the strongest safety signals you can give a child (American School Counselor Association [ASCA], n.d.; NASP, n.d.). Bend-La Pine Schools closed all schools today, so this weekend is a good time to re-establish rhythm.

Routines

  1. Keep meals, bedtimes, and activities as normal as possible.
  2. Build in extra connection: a walk, a game, reading together, time outside.
  3. Give children a way to help, such as drawing a card, lighting a candle, or attending a vigil if they want to. Helping others is itself a way of coping (SAMHSA, 2012).

News and social media

  1. Turn off TV and radio coverage when young children are around; they experience replays as new events (NCTSN, n.d.-b).
  2. For older kids, watch or read together and talk about it, rather than letting them scroll alone, and build in regular news breaks (APA, n.d.).
  3. Ask teens what they’re seeing on TikTok, Snapchat, and group chats. Rumors and graphic content spread fast after events like this.

Returning to school

  1. Tell your child what to expect: counselors will be there, and adults have safety plans.
  2. Plan a simple goodbye ritual and say exactly when and where you’ll pick them up.
  3. Expect some reluctance. Gentle, steady encouragement to go works better than letting avoidance settle in, unless your child was directly exposed. In that case, talk with the school counselor first.
  4. Let teachers know if your child is struggling at home.

When to get more help

Reach out to a mental health professional if reactions are intense, are getting worse, or last more than about four weeks (NCTSN, n.d.-a; SAMHSA, 2012). Seek help sooner for children who were at Silver Rail, knew a victim, or have prior trauma or anxiety.

Call a professional if your child:

  • Has persistent nightmares, sleep problems, or refuses to sleep alone after several weeks
  • Avoids school, friends, or activities they used to enjoy
  • Seems numb, detached, or unusually quiet for an extended period
  • Has frequent physical complaints with no medical cause
  • Shows a lasting drop in grades or functioning
  • Uses alcohol or drugs, or engages in reckless behavior

Get help immediately (call or text 988, or 911) if your child:

  • Talks about wanting to die, hurt themselves, or hurt others
  • Shows signs of planning harm or acquiring weapons
  • Seems disconnected from reality

Asking for help is a protective act, not a sign that you’ve failed. Early support helps prevent longer-term difficulties (SAMHSA, 2012).

For community members without children

This loss belongs to all of Bend, and you may feel it deeply even without kids at home. Shock, grief, anger, and trouble sleeping are normal reactions, and they may not match how the people around you are responding (Deschutes County Health Services, 2022a).

  1. Take care of your basics first. Eat, hydrate, rest, and step away from the news when you need to.
  2. Check in on the families around you. A meal, an offer to drive carpool, or simply asking “How are you holding up?” eases a heavy load.
  3. Watch your words in public. Children overhear conversations in stores, on sidelines, and at coffee shops. Keep speculation and graphic details out of earshot.
  4. Reach out if it stays heavy. Notice lasting changes in your mood, sleep, or habits, and use the resources below. They are for you too.

Local resources

Help is available now, at no cost for crisis services.

Immediate crisis lines and emergency services

Resource How to reach Notes
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Call or text 988 24/7
Deschutes County Crisis Line and Stabilization Center (541) 322-7500, ext. 9 · toll-free (800) 875-7364 · walk in at 63311 NE Jamison St., Bend 24/7 crisis assessment, intervention planning, referrals, and brief stabilization for children and adults
Deschutes County Behavioral Health (541) 322-7500 Non-crisis services and intake
Oregon YouthLine (teen-to-teen) Call (877) 968-8491 or text teen2teen to 839863 Teen peers 4–10 p.m.; adult support other hours
Crisis Text Line Text HOME to 741741 24/7
Veterans Crisis Line Dial 988, then press 1, or text 838255 24/7
The Trevor Project (LGBTQ+ youth) (866) 488-7386 or text START to 678-678 24/7
Trans Lifeline peer support (877) 565-8860 Peer support from trans operators; not 24/7, check translifeline.org for hours
Senior Loneliness Line (503) 200-1633 Support for older adults

Free walk-in community support, Friday, October 16

Deschutes County Health Services, St. Charles Health System, and Bend-La Pine Schools are hosting free drop-in support for students, families, school staff, and community members. No appointment needed.

Location Time Address
Deschutes Public Library, Central Library 10 a.m.–3 p.m. 61956 SE Santorini St., Bend
Larkspur Community Center 4–7 p.m. 1600 SE Reed Market Rd., Bend

Details: Deschutes County announcement · KTVZ. Check the county site for any added dates.

Community trauma response

Organization Services Contact
Trauma Response Network of Central Oregon (Josie Juhasz) Local EMDR therapists trained in recent-event trauma protocols; short-term or ongoing therapy and group interventions after community tragedies (541) 325-3254
Thrive Behavioral Health (Katrina) Individual trauma counseling and structured grief groups, including Group Traumatic Episode Protocol (G-TEP) (541) 390-1498

Local counseling and trauma specialists

Practice Focus Contact
Broken Top Counseling Trauma and EMDR (541) 316-0266
Mindsight Psychological evaluations and assessments (503) 222-0707
Pivot Behavioral Health Psychiatric medication management and therapy, ages 8+; trauma care; body-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming, neurodiversity-affirming (541) 293-1325
Vista Counseling & Wellness Center Child, family, and adult therapy; in person in Bend and telehealth (541) 222-0513 · vistapsych.com/new-clients
Your child’s school counselor School-based support as schools reopen Contact your school directly

Expanded list: For a fuller, regularly updated directory, see Bend: Crisis Resources & Trauma Response Guide, which also links to a general Bend resources list.

County crisis numbers and address verified October 16, 2026 against Deschutes County Health Services (n.d.). Community and practice listings compiled from local organization records and regional crisis documentation.

Written by Ryan Scott, PhD, Licensed Psychologist, Director, Vista Counseling & Wellness Center, October 16, 2026.

References

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. (2022, May 24). How to talk to children about mass shootings. https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Latest_News/How_to_Talk_to_Children_About_Mass_Shootings.aspx

American Psychological Association. (n.d.). Helping your children manage distress in the aftermath of a shooting. https://www.apa.org/topics/gun-violence-crime/shooting-aftermath

American School Counselor Association. (n.d.). Helping students after a school shooting. https://schoolcounselor.org/Publications-Research/Publications/Free-ASCA-Resources/After-a-School-Shooting

Deschutes County Health Services. (2022a). Deschutes County Behavioral Health offers resources after Bend shooting tragedy. https://deschutescounty.gov/health/page/deschutes-county-behavioral-health-offers-resources-after-bend-shooting-tragedy

Deschutes County Health Services. (2022b, August 30). Community assistance center available through Friday. https://deschutes.org/health/page/community-assistance-center-available-through-friday

Deschutes County Health Services. (2026, October 15). Free community support events scheduled Friday in Bend. https://www.deschutescounty.gov/m/newsflash/Home/Detail/338

Deschutes County Health Services. (n.d.). Crisis services. https://deschutescounty.gov/health/page/crisis-services

KPTV. (2026, October 15). 5 dead in Bend elementary school shooting. https://www.kptv.com/2026/10/15/bend-police-respond-report-active-shooter-silver-rail-elementary-school/

KTVZ. (2026, October 15). Crisis support sessions set for Friday in Bend following school tragedy. https://ktvz.com/news/2026/10/15/crisis-support-sessions-set-for-friday-in-bend-following-school-tragedy/

National Association of School Psychologists. (n.d.). Talking to children about violence: Tips for parents and teachers. https://www.nasponline.org/resources-and-publications/resources-and-podcasts/school-safety-and-crisis/school-violence-resources/talking-to-children-about-violence-tips-for-parents-and-teachers

National Child Traumatic Stress Network. (n.d.-a). Parent guidelines for helping youth after the recent shooting. https://www.nctsn.org/resources/parent-guidelines-helping-youth-after-recent-shooting (Spanish edition available.)

National Child Traumatic Stress Network. (n.d.-b). Talking to children about the shooting. https://www.nctsn.org/resources/talking-children-about-shooting

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. (2012). Tips for talking with and helping children and youth cope after a disaster or traumatic event: A guide for parents, caregivers, and teachers (HHS Publication No. SMA12-4732). https://store.samhsa.gov/product/tips-talking-helping-children-youth-cope-after-disaster-or-traumatic-event-guide-parents/sma12-4732

ADHD is More Than a Little Boy Who Can’t Sit Still

By Hannah Wahl

When most people think of ADHD, they picture a little boy who can’t sit still, interrupts the teacher, or gets in trouble at school. This might be how ADHD looks for many people, but it doesn’t encompass everyone’s experience. ADHD can look like daydreaming, forgetfulness, difficulty staying organized, or feeling constantly overwhelmed. 

Gender’s Role in ADHD Diagnosis

On average, girls are more likely to present with “inattentive symptoms” rather than stereotypical “hyperactive symptoms.” They may be labeled as lazy, shy, disorganized, chatty, or anxious rather than evaluated for ADHD. Some girls and women also learn to hide or “mask” their symptoms by overpreparing or overcompensating, which can look like perfectionism, good grades, and strict routines. Because of this, girls with ADHD are often underdiagnosed.

How Race Plays a Role 

Research shows that Black and Latino children are less likely to receive an ADHD diagnosis than their White peers reporting the same symptoms and level of functioning. Black children are more likely to receive labels like “defiant” or “aggressive,” even though their reported behaviors often align with ADHD symptoms. Many factors—including how adults interpret a child’s behavior—contribute to these disparities. For Black girls, the intersection of race and gender can create even more barriers to recognition and support.

Why This Matters 

When people with ADHD go undiagnosed, they often internalize feelings of shame from being labeled “lazy,” “irresponsible,” or “not trying hard enough.” They believe they are inherently “bad,” even though ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition that affects the ability to regulate attention, organize, control impulses, and manage daily tasks. ADHD does not always look disruptive, and it does not disappear simply because someone is intelligent, successful, or skilled at hiding their struggles.

ADHD does not have one look, personality, or presentation. Accessing proper diagnosis and care can reduce shame and empower individuals to thrive.

References

  1. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37595343/

  2. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34231220/

  3. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35147240/

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World Mental Health Day: An Opportunity to Discuss Mental Health

By Mindy Laraoco

This year on October 10, 2026, is World Mental Health Day and with this, comes an opportunity for us to check in with each other and ourselves about mental health. Discussions about how we’re doing, whether we’re doing well, struggling, or anything in between, can provide validation, support, and a sense of camaraderie. However, sometimes it can be hard knowing how to approach others, even if our intentions are to make sure they are okay. 

So how can we start conversations about mental health? Here are some tips: 

➻ Start Anywhere

Beginning a conversation with the intention to check in with someone about their mental health does not mean that you have to dive right into asking deep questions. It can be helpful to think that the beginning of those conversations are akin to just starting a conversation in general. Opening a conversation with “How’s it going?” can be a great starting point to check in with someone. Here are some other conversation helpers that can keep a conversation flowing: 

  • It’s been a while since we’ve seen each other, how have things been on your end? 
  • Anything exciting or interesting happen since we’ve last seen each other? 
  • What have you been up to lately? 

You could also consider opening up about some of your personal struggles that you’re comfortable sharing in order to signal that you’re also open to listening. An important part of these conversations is letting the other person know that you’re there to listen if needed. 

If you are wanting to start a conversation with someone that you know is struggling, it might be helpful to have a more direct conversation start such as: 

  • I’ve noticed that you’ve been acting differently lately, is something going on that you’d like to talk about? 
  • I’ve been worried about you and I want to be able to provide support, what can I do? 
  • If you’re not comfortable talking with me, is there someone else that you can turn to? 

➻ Be Open 

Depending on the situation or person that you are wanting to talk with, different approaches can be used. However, whether or not a conversation is had, letting others know that you are a safe person to speak to and are willing to provide support if needed can help someone else feel a lot less lonely. This can be a key factor in providing support. Checking in with someone does not always need to result in a conversation being had, but reminding them that there is the space to have one, if needed. Meeting a loved one where they are comfortable, can be a powerful tool to help provide support. 

➻ Take Moments to Check In 

Taking moments throughout the week to check in with each other can be a great way to support one another and start conversations about mental health. Using some of the conversation starters listed above, or even your own that you create, can be helpful in keeping up with one another’s experiences and feelings. This can also help check ins, and therefore conversations about mental health, become more regular! 

Conversations about mental health can feel daunting, but with time and effort can also become regular check in points. They can provide support, validation, and community with others and allow us to feel less alone. This World Mental Health Day, consider having these conversations to strengthen your relationships with those around you.

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6 Questions to Help You Design a Life You Actually Want

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It’s easy to fall into a routine where life feels like one long list of things you have to respond to.

Work needs your attention. Your family needs something. There are bills to pay, errands to run, messages to answer, and responsibilities that never seem to end.

Before you know it, months or even years can pass without stopping to ask a bigger question:

Am I actually building the life I want?

Designing your life doesn’t mean having every detail planned out. It means becoming more intentional about where you’re going, what matters to you, and how you want your everyday life to feel.

Here are six questions that can help you get started.

1. What gives my life a sense of purpose?

Purpose doesn’t have to mean changing the world or pursuing one huge mission.

It could come from raising your family, building a business, helping others, creating something meaningful, learning, teaching, travelling, or contributing to your community.

Think about the moments when you feel most fulfilled.

What are you doing? Who are you with? What makes those moments meaningful?

Understanding what gives you purpose can make it easier to decide where you want to invest your time and energy.

2. What matters most to me?

Your values act like a compass.

Maybe you value freedom, family, stability, creativity, connection, growth, adventure, health, or independence.

The important part is identifying your values rather than simply following what other people expect from you.

Once you know what matters most, look at your current life. Are your choices actually reflecting those values?

If family is your biggest priority but work consumes nearly every waking hour, for example, there may be an opportunity to make some changes.

3. What would my ideal ordinary day look like?

Instead of imagining the perfect vacation or winning the lottery, picture a regular Tuesday.

Where would you wake up?

What kind of work would you do?

Who would you spend time with?

How busy would your schedule be?

What would you do in the evening?

This exercise can be surprisingly helpful because most of our lives are made up of ordinary days. Creating a life you enjoy often means designing those everyday moments rather than constantly waiting for something exciting to happen.

4. What am I doing simply because I think I’m supposed to?

Sometimes we follow a path without consciously choosing it.

We pursue a certain career because it seems practical. We stay incredibly busy because productivity feels like success. We say yes because we don’t want to disappoint anyone.

Ask yourself whether the things taking up your time are things you genuinely want.

You don’t necessarily need to eliminate every obligation. But recognizing the difference between what you choose and what you’ve simply accepted can give you more control over your direction.

5. What am I avoiding?

Big questions can be uncomfortable.

It’s often easier to stay busy, scroll through your phone, watch another show, or focus on everyone else’s problems than to think about what you really want.

Ask yourself what you’ve been putting off.

Maybe there’s a career move you keep thinking about. A conversation you need to have. A goal you haven’t started. Or a part of your life that hasn’t felt right for a while.

You don’t have to solve everything immediately. Simply acknowledging what you’ve been avoiding is a meaningful first step.

6. What is one small change I can make now?

Designing your life doesn’t require completely reinventing yourself overnight.

In fact, small changes are often more realistic.

Maybe you protect one evening a week for yourself. Start exercising again. Apply for one new job. Take a course. Spend more time with someone important to you. Start saving toward a goal. Or finally begin the project you’ve been talking about for years.

Choose one action that moves your everyday life a little closer to the life you pictured.

You Don’t Need the Entire Plan

You probably won’t have perfect answers to all six questions, and your answers will likely change over time.

That’s okay.

The goal isn’t to create a flawless five-year plan. It’s to become more intentional about the choices you’re making today.

Life will always contain unexpected events, responsibilities, and circumstances outside your control. But within those realities, there are often more opportunities to make deliberate choices than we realize.

Instead of only asking, “What is happening to me?”

Try asking:

“What do I want to create from here?”

That question alone can change the direction of what comes next.

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National Suicide Prevention Month: First Steps for Supporting Children and Teens

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By: Emily Walden, PhD

Immediately contact 911, 988, or visit your nearest emergency room to access support for any current suicidal ideation or crisis needs.

Oregon ranks far above the national average for suicide deaths of youth, and rates have only decreased in the last few years for those who are white, indicating a strong need for additional support for individuals from marginalized racial and ethnic groups.

The Oregon Health Authority (OHA) provides suicide prevention and intervention resources and programs by county in Oregon, along with monthly and quarterly data on emergency room and urgent care visits for suicidal ideation/behaviors. Per the most recent data, from July 2025 through June 2026, there was a monthly average of 474 visits to the ER for individuals 17 and under across Oregon. National reporting from The Trevor Project indicates that, due to systemic prejudice and other external factors, including discrimination, suicide behaviors occur significantly more frequently for LGBTQ+ youth, especially those who are BIPOC.

The following resources provide parents/caregivers or any adults working with children and teens with intervention considerations:

  • NAMI Suicide Prevention Month (Includes a toolkit and national resources that parents/caregivers can use to help begin a conversation with children and teens on discussing suicidal behaviors.)
  • Supporting Kids’ Mental Health: A Guide for Parents (Provides videos to help parents/caregivers talk with their children about mental health needs, models discussing anxiety and depression, and explains how they can seek additional support.)
  • Kids Mental Health Foundation (Gives evidence-based, in-depth articles on aspects of suicidal ideation or self-harm, how to help in responding to these behaviors, and ways to support children in building resilience.)
  • Suicide Prevention: 12 Things Parents Can Do (Specific strategies for how parents/caregivers can respond in the moment of a crisis, signs to look for, and lived experiences of teens who have survived experiencing suicidal ideation.)

Children and teens can benefit from additional resources, including:

  • YouthLine (Gives call, text, chat, and email options for children and teens to seek out peer and adult support for mental health struggles. Teens can also choose to volunteer for peer-to-peer support.)
  • We R Native (Provides resources for Native children and teens, including mental health support online and other resources.)
  • The Trevor Project (Provides support for children and teens, especially those who are LGBTQ+, in working through anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation. Trained counselors are available 24/7. Online community support is also available for teens to connect with other teens in a safe and affirming space.)
  • Black Youth Suicide Prevention Coalition (BYSPC) (Provides space, events, and mental health support especially for Black children and teens in Oregon.)
  • Save a Friend: Tips for Teens to Prevent Suicide (Through the National Association of School Psychologists, provides strategies teens can use if they are worried about a friend or peer.)

Therapists may especially find the following resources useful:

  • Blueprint for Youth Suicide Prevention (Through the American Academy of Pediatrics, this provides prevention and intervention considerations as found through research for recognizing children and teens who may be at risk for suicide and how to intervene.)
  • Lines for Life (Includes suicide prevention and postvention programs available locally in Oregon, as well as training resources.)
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Some Introverts Think Best by Writing

Some Introverts Think Best by Writing

We often assume the best ideas come from the people who speak up first.

But for many introverts, that’s not how it works.

For a lot of introverts, writing isn’t just a way to communicate. It’s actually how they think.

Have you ever sat in a meeting and felt like you didn’t have much to add, only to leave with a dozen great ideas a few hours later? Or found yourself writing an email and realizing your thoughts became much clearer as you typed? If so, you’re not alone.

Writing gives your brain the space to slow down. There’s no pressure to respond immediately or compete to be the loudest voice in the room. Instead, you get time to process, connect ideas, and figure out what you actually think.

That’s why many introverts are so strong at writing emails, proposals, reports, or long-form content. They aren’t just putting their thoughts into words. They’re discovering those thoughts through the writing process.

I think this is something that often gets overlooked, especially in today’s fast-paced work environment. We tend to celebrate quick responses and people who can think on their feet. Those skills are valuable, but they aren’t the only way great ideas are created.

Sometimes the best ideas need a little time.

Writing allows you to question your assumptions, look at a problem from different angles, and organize your thinking before sharing it with others. The result is often a more thoughtful and well-rounded perspective.

Of course, this doesn’t apply to every introvert, and plenty of extroverts enjoy writing too. Everyone processes information differently. But understanding that some people think best by writing helps us appreciate that there isn’t just one “right” way to contribute.

So the next time someone says, “Let me think about it and get back to you,” don’t mistake it for hesitation.

They might just be doing their best thinking.

And for many introverts, that thinking happens one sentence at a time.

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The Word Workout: Why Talking Is the Brain Exercise You May Be Missing

The Word Workout: Why Talking Is the Brain Exercise You May Be Missing

Most of us know that walking is good for our health. We hear about the benefits of exercise all the time, from improving heart health to boosting our mood and energy levels.

But there is another type of exercise that doesn’t get nearly enough attention.

Talking.

It may sound simple, but talking is one of the most powerful workouts your brain can get.

We Are Talking Less Than Ever

Think about how often you communicate through text messages, emails, or social media. While technology has made it easier to stay connected, it has also reduced the amount of real conversation many of us have each day.

Interestingly, two groups tend to have some of the lowest rates of talking: tweens and teens, and adults over 65. While their reasons may be different, both groups could be missing out on the cognitive benefits that come from regular conversation.

The truth is that talking is much more than exchanging information. It is an active process that engages multiple parts of the brain at once.

What Happens When We Talk?

When we put our thoughts into words, our brains have to work. We organize ideas, process emotions, recall information, and make connections.

This mental activity can help us:

  • Improve focus and attention
  • Follow through on goals and plans
  • Learn and retain information more effectively
  • Better understand our emotions
  • Strengthen communication skills
  • Gain clarity when facing challenges or difficult decisions

Have you ever noticed that a problem seems easier to solve after talking it through with someone? Sometimes the act of speaking helps us make sense of thoughts that felt tangled in our heads.

Even Athletes Use the Power of Talking

Professional athletes often use self-talk as part of their training. Coaches encourage them to speak positive reminders, instructions, and strategies out loud to improve focus and performance.

Talking helps them stay present, confident, and mentally sharp.

You do not need to be an elite athlete to benefit from this practice. Simply talking through a challenge, discussing ideas with a friend, or even speaking your thoughts out loud can help your brain process information more effectively.

Small Conversations Matter

The good news is that you do not need deep, life-changing conversations every day to experience the benefits.

A phone call with a friend, a chat with a neighbour, a conversation over dinner, or discussing ideas with a colleague can all help keep your brain active and engaged.

In a world that often encourages quick texts and short messages, making time for real conversation may be one of the simplest ways to support your mental well-being.

Give Your Brain a Workout

We often think about exercising our bodies, but our brains need exercise too.

Talking helps us learn, reflect, solve problems, and connect with others. It challenges our minds in ways that typing on a screen simply cannot.

So the next time you have the choice between sending a text and having a conversation, consider picking up the phone or meeting someone for coffee.

It might be one of the healthiest things you do all day.

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Children’s Mental Health: A Day of Awareness, Acceptance, and Action

Children’s Mental Health: A Day of Awareness, Acceptance, and Action

By: Emily Walden, PhD

Children’s mental health awareness weeks were initiated by parents, healthcare providers, and other supporters, beginning in the 1990s, to increase understanding of the specific mental health needs of youth. In 2004, the National Federation of Families established Children’s Mental Health Awareness Week, and about a year later, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) declared National Children’s Mental Health Awareness Day. Though “Awareness” is still used by many, some have begun calling this an “Acceptance Day,” to decrease stigma for mental illness, or an “Action Day,” as a call for more direct and efficient steps to immediately reduce suffering and increase positive support for children. In 2026, this day falls on Thursday, May 7th.

Toolkits to support parents/caregivers, therapists, schools, and other individuals and agencies who provide services to children are available from multiple national organizations, including SAMHSA and the National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN). Local resources for this day are provided by the Oregon Family Support Network (OFSN), which is hosting events for families and a resource fair in Salem on May 9th and Eugene on May 16th; the Tillamook County Suicide Prevention Coalition, which is helping children and teens make self-care kits on May 7th; and Albertina Kerr, which is hosting a talk about neurodiversity and mental health needs for children and teens in Portland on May 26th.

Awareness includes understanding:

  1. The prevalence of mental health needs in youth. For example, a recent study by the Oregon Health Authority (OHA) of 6th-, 8th-, and 11th-graders found that, in the past year, 12% reported self-harming, 12% reported considering suicide, and 3.3% reported having attempted suicide. Oregon has higher rates of anxiety and depression in children at 18% of the population compared to the national average of 13%.
  1. That children from marginalized groups experience additional difficulties in accessing care and factors that contribute to mental health concerns, including racial bias/discrimination and discrimination for LGBTQ+ youth.

Acceptance could mean:

  1. Supporting universal care for children and teens and easily accessible resources. Parents/caregivers and schools can access and use resources for all children, including from the The Kids Mental Health Foundation. Mental health can be part of the daily discussion.
  1. Reducing stigma around mental health. Children and teens may be concerned how they will be perceived or how “different” they might seem to peers, and they often worry mental health professionals will misunderstand them, which depending on certain intersectional identities, can be even more detrimental for some children and teens.

Action may look like:

  1. Reducing or mitigating factors that contribute to mental health struggles, such as rates of abuse/neglect (e.g., 8,242 founded child maltreatment reports alone in Oregon in 2024), risks from low socio-economic status (e.g., neurobiological and cardiovascular changes in childhood), and stressful circumstances for children who have immigrated or are refugees in the U.S., among others.
  1. Increasing care options across all levels of support. Despite the many IOP, psychiatric hospitalization options, and therapeutic programs outlined for youth in OHSU’s most recent service report for youth, there remains a significant deficit.

Resiliency occurs despite the vulnerability of children’s mental health, and the role of advocacy in this field must occur constantly, but a day dedicated to children’s mental health is a necessary step to support awareness, acceptance, and action.



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10% Better: Small, Evidence-Based Ways to Support Your Mental Health

10% Better: Small, Evidence-Based Ways to Support Your Mental Health

“Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.” — Vincent van Gogh

It’s easy to fall into all-or-nothing thinking when it comes to mental health: 

I need to fix everything. I should feel better by now. If I can’t do it perfectly, why try at all? 

This mindset can backfire. Research in psychology consistently shows that sustainable change tends to come from small, repeatable actions—not dramatic overhauls. Aiming to feel “10% better” can be more realistic, more compassionate, and ultimately more effective than chasing a total transformation.

Below are practical, evidence-informed strategies that can help nudge your mental health in a positive direction. None are magic fixes—but each can make a meaningful difference.

  • Move your body—gently counts
    You don’t need an intense workout. Walking, stretching, or light activity has been linked to reductions in symptoms of depression and anxiety. Consistency matters more than intensity.
  • Get 10–20 minutes of daylight early in the day
    Exposure to natural light, especially in the morning, helps regulate circadian rhythms and can improve mood and sleep quality. Even on cloudy, PNW days, outdoor light is significantly brighter than indoor lighting.
  • Name what you’re feeling
    Putting emotions into words (“I feel overwhelmed” vs. “I feel bad”) activates language areas of the brain involved in regulation. This simple practice—sometimes called “affect labeling”—can reduce emotional intensity.
  • Limit information overload
    Constant exposure to news and social media can increase stress and anxiety. So ask yourself: does my media consumption make me more empowered, or less? It’s okay to not track every headline or to take a news vacation.
  • Reach out—even briefly
    Short, low-pressure social interactions (a text, a quick call, a shared moment) can meaningfully boost mood. Social connection, even brief, is one of the most robust protective factors in mental health research.
  • Use your senses to ground yourself
    Simple grounding exercises—like noticing five things you can see or focusing on sounds in the room—can reduce acute stress and bring attention back to the present moment.
  • Track small wins
    Our brains are biased toward noticing what’s wrong. Instead, think about one or two things that went okay today. Explore a “done” list, rather than a “to-do list,” some “accomplished” journaling, rather than “goal” journaling. Odds are, you’ve done more this week than you realize.

A final note
Improvement doesn’t have to be dramatic to matter. If something helps you feel even 10% better—and it’s safe, sustainable, and accessible—that’s meaningful progress. Over time, small changes can accumulate into something much larger.

If you’re struggling and these strategies feel like far from enough, reaching out for professional support is an important next step. You don’t have to figure it out alone.

Bibliography / Further reading

Creswell, J. D. (2017). Mindfulness interventions. Annual Review of Psychology.

Dimidjian, S., Hollon, S. D., Dobson, K. S., et al. (2006). Randomized trial of behavioral activation, cognitive therapy, and antidepressant medication in the acute treatment of adults with major depression. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology.

Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Gao, J., Zheng, P., Jia, Y., et al. (2020). Mental health problems and social media exposure during COVID-19 outbreak. PLOS ONE.

Haslam, C., Jetten, J., Cruwys, T., et al. (2018). The new psychology of health: Unlocking the social cure. Routledge.

Holman, E. A., Garfin, D. R., & Silver, R. C. (2014). Media’s role in broadcasting acute stress following collective trauma. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

Holt-Lunstad, J., Smith, T. B., & Layton, J. B. (2010). Social relationships and mortality risk: A meta-analytic review. PLOS Medicine.

Jacobson, N. S., Martell, C. R., & Dimidjian, S. (2001). Behavioral activation treatment for depression. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice.

LeGates, T. A., Fernandez, D. C., & Hattar, S. (2014). Light as a central modulator of circadian rhythms, sleep, and affect. Nature Reviews Neuroscience.

Lieberman, M. D., Eisenberger, N. I., Crockett, M. J., et al. (2007). Putting feelings into words: Affect labeling disrupts amygdala activity. Psychological Science.

Limburg, K., Watson, H. J., Hagger, M. S., et al. (2017). The relationship between perfectionism and psychopathology: A meta-analysis. Journal of Clinical Psychology.

Polusny, M. A., Erbes, C. R., Thuras, P., et al. (2015). Mindfulness-based stress reduction for PTSD among veterans. JAMA.

Schuch, F. B., Vancampfort, D., Richards, J., et al. (2016). Physical activity and incident depression: A meta-analysis. American Journal of Psychiatry.

Seligman, M. E. P., Steen, T. A., Park, N., et al. (2005). Positive psychology progress: Empirical validation of interventions. American Psychologist.

Stubbs, B., Vancampfort, D., Rosenbaum, S., et al. (2017). An examination of the anxiolytic effects of exercise. Psychiatry Research.

Wirz-Justice, A. (2009). From the basic neuroscience of circadian clock function to light therapy for depression. Dialogues in Clinical Neuroscience.

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National Exercise & ‘Play Outside’ Days

National Exercise & ‘Play Outside’ Days

By: Claire Butcher

In the spring there are three closely related national days revolving around the benefits of physical activity and nature: National Exercise Day, National Play Outside Day, and National Walking Day. It’s likely we all think of ways we could be incorporating more physical activity and time outside when we hear about these highlighted dates. Between hectic work schedules, daunting updates in the news, and nearly unlimited access to screens and quick dopamine-hits, it can be difficult to reconnect with our bodies and the outdoors. This article will shed light on the benefits of movement and nature, and provide ways we can reduce the barriers to integrating these essential activities into our schedule. 

Benefits of Nature

Time outside can give us one of the most immediate benefits to mental health – drastically reducing stress, lowering our cortisol levels, and improving our mood. Sunlight specifically plays a large role in boosting our production of serotonin and reducing symptoms of depression. Research shows that routine exposure to nature also helps us reduce rumination, or cycles of negative thinking patterns. Some doctors and therapists even prescribe time in nature to their patients, encouraging them to reconnect with the outdoors to gain the numerous health benefits.

Connecting with nature doesn’t always have to look like a long camping trip or strenuous hike; immediate benefits can be achieved through small forms of engagement – gardening, going for a short walk in a park, standing or sitting outside for fresh air, even having a window with a view of nature has been linked to these cognitive benefits. To all the college students – even looking at plants can help improve our focus and memory when studying.

Benefits of Walking and Exercise

Numerous studies have shed light on the incredible benefits of exercise for mental health – from reducing symptoms of anxiety and depression and boosting our ‘feel-good’ hormones and endorphins, to improving our overall brain function. Research even shows even
one-time workouts improve cognitive function, sharpening our attention, executive function, memory, and information processing. In this study, age, cognitive status of participants, type of or intensity of exercise, and duration of workout had no significant impact on the benefits participants received. 

Some clinicians recommend pairing mindfulness training with movement – suggesting two to five minute walks in-silence to boost our awareness, brain growth, and mood. Again, remember that small goals can make a big difference, one major study in 2021 discovered that any level of physical activity improved depression risk. Daily movement can even improve symptoms of more severe mental health struggles like PTSD, schizophrenia, and Alzheimer’s. For depression, research has proven aerobic exercises (such as jogging, swimming, cycling, walking, dancing, gardening) significantly reduce symptoms.

Make it Accessible

Just because we know the benefits of movement and spending time in nature, doesn’t mean it’s easy to integrate. Here are some tips to get started and keep the momentum going:

  • Habit stacking – pairing one existing habit with a new one you’re trying to incorporate (doing chair yoga or a short workout while watching a TV show, going for a walk while calling a friend or listening to music)
  • Momentum building – identifying tasks to complete while working towards the end-goal (getting up, drinking water, grabbing a snack, going for a walk, then coming home to clean your room now that your mind and body are active)
    • Or, identifying things that need to happen such as waking up and coming home from class or work, and doing an activity you want to do afterwards (i.e.: getting home from work → then going for a walk; feeding yourself or a pet → then stretching or doing a short workout)
  • Body doubling / Accountability – having a friend to engage in these things with, or someone to report back to, can help us stick to our goals
  • Lower the bar – if it’s too intimidating to start, lower the expectation (instead of “go on a 30 minute walk each day”, change that to “walk for five minutes a day” so you can integrate the habit so it’s achievable even on your hardest days
  • ‘Kill until’ – if we wait for the perfect time to start something new, we will wait forever! Dishes, laundry, and other non-urgent maintenance often can wait while we take time to practice other forms of self-care
  • Get rid of unhelpful rules – if it’s too difficult to do the ‘right’ steps, make your own! (workout at home in your current clothes or pajamas if it’s too much to change into gym clothes and drive to a gym or go outside)

While managing mental health is a multi-layered and complex process, starting with solid foundations of accessible exercise and time outdoors are highly effective ways to improve our wellbeing. Reconnecting with our bodies, minds, and green spaces – even briefly – is vital in this stressful time to ensure we maintain grounded and connected with our spaces and communities around us.

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How to Clarify Your Values and Build a Simple 90-Day Plan

How to Clarify Your Values and Build a Simple 90-Day Plan

Before setting ambitious goals for the year ahead, it’s worth pausing to get clear on what actually matters to you. Without that clarity, even the most well-crafted plans can lead to burnout, distraction, or progress that doesn’t feel meaningful. A focused 90-day plan rooted in your values can help you move forward with purpose and direction.

Start with Your Current Reality

Clarity doesn’t come from forcing goals, it comes from honest reflection. Take time to assess where you are right now across different areas of your life: work, health, relationships, and personal growth. What’s working well? What feels off? What’s draining your energy?

This step isn’t about judgment, it’s about awareness. When you understand your current reality, your goals become more grounded and achievable.

Define Your Season

Not every phase of life is meant for rapid growth. Sometimes you’re building, sometimes maintaining, sometimes navigating change, and sometimes recovering.

Ask yourself: What season am I in right now?

  • Growth: You have energy and capacity to push forward.
  • Stability: You’re maintaining and strengthening what you’ve built.
  • Transition: You’re navigating change or uncertainty.
  • Recovery: You need rest, healing, or recalibration.

Defining your season helps you set realistic expectations and prevents you from taking on more than you can sustain.

Choose 3–5 Focused Priorities

Once you’re clear on your values and your season, narrow your focus. Instead of trying to improve everything at once, choose three to five priorities for the next 90 days.

These should reflect what truly matters, not what feels urgent or externally pressured.

For each priority, keep it simple:

  • What outcome do you want?
  • What does progress look like?
  • What’s one small step you can take this week?

This keeps your energy directed toward meaningful progress instead of scattered effort.

Build Your 90-Day Plan

A 90-day timeframe is long enough to see real progress, but short enough to stay focused. Break your priorities into small, manageable actions you can take weekly.

Avoid overcomplicating the plan. Clarity and consistency matter more than perfection.

Check In Regularly

A plan is only useful if you stay connected to it. Set aside time each week or month to review your progress:

  • What’s working?
  • What feels misaligned?
  • What needs to change?

These check-ins aren’t about starting over, they’re about adjusting your direction while staying committed to your priorities.

Move Forward with Intention

When your goals are aligned with your values and your current season, progress feels more natural and sustainable. Instead of chasing everything, you focus on what truly matters and that’s where meaningful change happens.

A simple, intentional 90-day plan can be the difference between feeling overwhelmed and moving forward with clarity.

 

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What to Do When You’re Feeling Stuck

What to Do When You’re Feeling Stuck

We all hit moments in life where everything feels paused like we’re unsure of the next step, lacking motivation, or simply going through the motions. Feeling stuck isn’t a failure; it’s a signal. It’s your mind and body asking for a shift. Here are a few ways to gently move yourself forward again.

  1. Talk to Your Future Self
    Imagine the version of you a year from now the one who made it through this phase. What choices did they make? What did they stop overthinking? Sometimes, stepping outside your current perspective helps you see things more clearly. Your future self isn’t as afraid as you are right now; they’ve already figured it out. Let them guide you.
  2. Consider What’s Outside Your Comfort Zone
    Feeling stuck often means you’ve outgrown your current routine. Growth rarely happens in familiar spaces. Ask yourself: what am I avoiding because it feels uncomfortable? Whether it’s starting something new, having a difficult conversation, or taking a small risk, discomfort can be a doorway to momentum.
  3. Don’t Waste Time Waiting for Perfect Conditions
    There’s a common trap in waiting until you feel “ready.” The truth is, clarity comes from action, not the other way around. You don’t need a perfect plan—you just need a starting point. Even the smallest step forward can break the cycle of stagnation and create a sense of progress.
  4. Make a Self-Loving Choice
    When you’re stuck, it’s easy to be hard on yourself. Instead, ask: what would be the most self-loving thing I could do right now? Maybe it’s resting without guilt, setting a boundary, or doing something that genuinely makes you feel good. Moving forward doesn’t always mean pushing harder, it can also mean treating yourself with more care.

Feeling stuck is temporary, even if it doesn’t feel that way. It’s part of being human. Be patient with yourself, stay curious, and remember: even small shifts can lead to meaningful change.

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