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Practical Tips For Greater Happiness

In life, you often face challenges that can cast long shadows of anxiety and despair. But what if you could alter your perceptions and responses to these difficulties? What if you could rewrite the script of your inner dialogue, transforming it from self-doubt to empowerment?

With these impactful ways, you can steer your mindset towards positivity and embark on a journey that can redefine your reality and lead to a happier, more fulfilling life. 

Embrace the Power of Gratitude

Discover how the simple act of counting your blessings can unleash a flood of feel-good hormones, like dopamine, and shift your thoughts away from negativity.  

From the simple joys of using your senses to the profound blessings of food, shelter, and cherished connections, gratitude can redirect your thoughts away from negativity.

Pursue Passions and Conquer Challenges

Delve headfirst into activities that kindle the flames of your passion and bring boundless joy. Whether it’s your vocation, creative pursuits, or fitness goals, directing your energies toward what you love can be an enduring wellspring of happiness. Just be mindful to maintain equilibrium with your other life obligations.

Furthermore, perceive the challenges in your path as opportunities for personal growth and discovery. 

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Unplug from Autopilot in 3 Easy Ways

Do you ever catch yourself daydreaming about the life you truly desire, only to snap back to reality with a never-ending to-do list in hand? 

What if you could set your course, dream big, and map out your roadmap as you go? While it’s all too easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of busyness, by finding the time, support, and strategies, you can break free from autopilot mode. 

Make Time for Self-Reflection

How do you find space when you’re already stretched thin? 

Start with baby steps and recognize that significant change begins with the smallest actions. You can start by trimming screen time, rising 10 minutes earlier, or unplugging 30 minutes before bedtime for introspection. Even a brief post-lunch walk can serve as intentional reflection time.

By creating space, you can seize those mini moments in your day to acknowledge where your time truly goes and set boundaries to safeguard what matters most to you. 

Dream the Dream

Now that you’ve carved out those precious pockets of time, the next step is to use them to reflect on your life vision. Breaking free from autopilot hinges on gaining clarity about what truly matters to you, what brings joy and fulfillment, and how to gradually chart a path toward these aspirations.

Consider things like – what fuels your positive energy? Which values hold the most significance for you? How do you define success? What’s your ultimate dream for your life?

As you explore your life vision, remember to grant yourself the freedom to dream without dwelling on the ‘how.’ Always remember to ask yourself, “What do I want for myself?” and the roadmap will come in due time.

Embrace Progress

The next phase is all about action. But here’s the secret: it’s the small steps that truly count.

Don’t fall into the trap of all-or-nothing thinking, believing that you must revolutionize your life overnight. Instead, focus on one small change at a time. It’s about setting a manageable pace for yourself without the need for massive leaps or week-long transformations. 

Remember, progress is progress, no matter how gradual.

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Embracing Positive Experiences

Have you ever wondered why it’s easier to remember the bad stuff than the good? It’ss because the brain is wired that way, naturally gravitating towards negativity. But here’s the thing: dwelling on the negative can lead to stress, depression, and anxiety.

The good news is that you have the power to change that. Mindfulness is that secret weapon that can help you train your brain to focus on the positive, boost your mood and make you more resilient. By embracing positive experiences and pushing aside the negative, you can transform your life for the better.

Shifting your focus from negative to positive may feel unfamiliar, require effort, or seem time-consuming. Yet, even amidst life’s chaos, you can start small. Practice mindfulness, be aware of your thoughts, and try these simple tips to kickstart your journey toward positivity.

Turn Your Victories Into a Celebration

Acknowledge and applaud yourself for accomplishments, big or small. 

Keep a meticulous to-do list, and revel in the joy of checking off each task, no matter how mundane. Remember to include even the little things you might have once overlooked, like savoring a healthy snack or simply stepping outside. Every achievement counts.

 Remember, it’s these small wins that pave the path to a more positive and fulfilling life.

Accept Compliments Gracefully 

Accepting compliments with grace is an art that can brighten your day and strengthen relationships. Saying ‘thank you’ not only acknowledges their kindness but also fosters a sense of mutual connection. This connection benefits both you and the giver by creating positive energy in the interaction.  

Make it a point to rehearse your ‘thank you’ in your mind, and the next time you receive a compliment, seize the chance to say ‘thank you’ and keep the cycle of kindness going.

Embrace Nature’s Serenity 

Find solace in contemplative moments connected to nature and let yourself savor the beauty of the present. Because in nature’s embrace, you’ll discover the art of just being and finding peace in the simplicity of the moment.

Sometimes, all you need is a hug from nature that ensures you get that daily dose of tranquility and positivity.

 

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Small Acts – Big Impact

Have you ever done something nice for someone else “just because”? It wasn’t to repay them or because you had to, it was simply because you wanted to. 

Well, then, you’ve done a random act of kindness. They are those unexpected, selfless deeds that bring joy and positivity to others without expecting anything in return. 

Kindness is like a universal language, and it’s one of the most valued character strengths in our society. You are naturally drawn to kind-hearted people, and as it turns out, being kind not only brightens someone else’s day but also enhances your well-being. 

From selfless gestures to acts of generosity, get ready to be inspired to sprinkle more kindness into your life as you uncover the secrets to making the world a better place, one act of kindness at a time. 

Practice the Attitude of Gratitude 

In a fast-paced world, pausing to show gratitude reminds people of the beauty in their connections. It’s a way of saying, ‘You matter, and I appreciate you just as you are.’ 

It isn’t just a feeling; it’s a powerful force that deepens connections and spreads positivity. So, go ahead and send that heartfelt message, make that call, or write that note of thanks.

Be Respectful and Celebrate Goodness

Being respectful is all about treating every person you meet with kindness and respect, no matter who they are or where they come from. It’s a reminder that we’re all part of the same human family. 

And don’t stop there. Acknowledge and celebrate the positive actions of others – from a heartfelt “thank you” to a simple nod of appreciation, these gestures can brighten someone’s day and inspire more acts of kindness.  

Gift Your Time

You can make a positive change in someone’s life by simply offering your time.

Whether lending an empathetic ear to a friend in need or dedicating hours to volunteer at a local charity your time can be just what they need! 

So make the world a brighter, kinder place – one shared second at a time.

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From Lost to Found: How to Find Yourself in Your 20s

Welcome to the exhilarating world of your 20s!

This transformative phase of life is filled with endless possibilities and opportunities for growth. It’s a time when you embark on the journey of self-discovery, navigate through the twists and turns, build meaningful relationships, and make important life decisions. 

But as you navigate through the pressures and uncertainties that come with this pivotal decade, it’s crucial to stay grounded, accept change, prioritize self-care, and trust in your own journey. 

Whether finding your purpose, building resilience, cultivating healthy relationships, or embracing change, buckle up and get ready to dive into the exciting self-discovery journey ahead!

Don’t Stress About Your 5-Year Plan

We’ve all looked back at our high school years and wished we had made different choices. But guess what? The same goes for our 20s! 

Instead of getting caught up in the what-ifs and maybes, focus on the present moment. This is your time to shine, explore, and build a rock-solid relationship with the most crucial person in your life—yourself!

So, dive headfirst into the glorious chaos of your 20s. It’s time to make memories, embrace uncertainty, make bold choices, and create a future you’ll look back on with pride.    

Express Yourself and Let Your Words Be Heard 

Remember, you have the right to be heard, respected, and valued. So speak up, and let your authentic voice shine.  

Your thoughts, feelings, and opinions matter, and expressing them is vital to your personal journey. Always remember to establish clear boundaries to protect your mental and emotional well-being.

Now take charge of your mental and emotional well-being by defining what is acceptable, and don’t hesitate to assert those boundaries and stand up for yourself.

Live Life On Your Terms 

Your story is one-of-a-kind, filled with twists and turns. So embrace every chapter, the highs and the lows, and everything in between.

If it doesn’t light your fire, break free! Who cares what others think? It’s your life, your rules, and your time to shine. Step out of that line and dance to the beat of your own heart.

Lastly, don’t chase money – it isn’t the ultimate prize! Instead, seek something far more significant—truth, meaning, and fulfillment. Find joy in the simple things, follow your passions, and let your heart guide you to a life rich with purpose.

Trust The Process

Patience is the name of the game! All your dreams won’t magically come true overnight, so embrace the journey and trust that everything will fall into place in due time.

Take every opportunity to learn, explore, and step out of your comfort zone. Experience the lessons that come your way, even with a few bumps and bruises, for they are shaping you into the amazing person you’re destined to become.

It’s also okay to take risks and make mistakes along the way. That’s how you learn and grow. So, hand tight – enjoy the adventure, seize the opportunities, and keep believing in yourself. 

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Conquer Your “Not Feeling It” Days

From fun tricks to simple mindset shifts, get ready to curb procrastination and embrace a can-do attitude. 

Bust a Move and Break Free

Stand up and let your body groove to the rhythm. Feel the energy surge as you do some squats, maybe even throw in a few push-ups. 

Sitting for too long leaves you rigid not just in posture but also in breath, thoughts, and emotions. But fear not; the antidote is simple: reconnect with your body! 

Now let the rhythm of movement awaken your senses and invigorate your motivation as you get up and get shaking! 

Tap Into Your Own Experiences and Preferences

You are unique, with individual needs and quirks that fuel your motivation. Some thrive under pressure, while others find their routines flexible, such as morning coffee or late-night hours.

The key is recognizing that there is no one-size-fits-all formula for igniting your action mode. So take a moment to reflect on a time when you felt unstoppable, and ask yourself: What made that moment different? 

Now, channel that energy and recreate it to ignite your drive. Now unlock your limitless potential – your sweet spot awaits! 

Uncover Your Why! 

We all have those tasks that make you question your motivation. 

But deep down, there’s a driving force, a purpose that matters to you. Take a moment to dig beneath the surface and discover what truly lights you up. Is it your dreams, your health, your relationships, or simply your peace of mind? Connect with what you care about and let it fuel your actions. 

So, the next you find yourself asking why even bother?, know that every step you take brings you closer to a life that’s truly meaningful. 

Take Some Action

Action fuels motivation! Instead of waiting for that burst of inspiration, dive right in and get the ball rolling. 

Whether tackling a workout, diving into a project, or finishing things on your to-do list, remember that action is the key that unlocks the door to success. So, do something right now; the rest will fall into place!

3 Ways to Break Your Mundane Routine

Are you feeling stuck in a mundane cycle of commuting to work, sitting in a cubicle, and repeating the same evening activities? You’re not alone! 

If you have been feeling drained, unenthusiastic and struggling to find things to look forward to, you may be stuck in a rut. 

Having the same daily routine can often make you feel stuck in an endless cycle of sameness and monotony. But by challenging yourself to break your routine, you can fight the monotony you experience daily.

So, here are 3 ways to help you break your mundane routine when you’re feeling uninspired:

Add Mindfulness to Your Morning Routine 

Practicing mindfulness in the morning can be a great way to connect with yourself before diving into the rest of your day.

Try to break away from your regular routine by creating a morning ritual that brings your awareness to the present moment. This could mean stretching when you first wake up, watching the sunrise, walking in the garden, journaling, or meditating.

The choice is up to you!

Prioritize Your Hobbies

By engaging in side hustles, taking on home projects and pursuing hobbies, you can tap your creative side and add a little spice to your daily routine!

Not only will these activities keep you productive, but they will also improve your mental health.

Soon enough, you’ll be able to break free from autopilot mode. 

Take the Scenic Route

Why not mix things up and create more exciting moments in your day? 

There’s no better way to switch things up than by being spontaneous. So it’s the perfect time to try something different daily so you have something to look forward to. 

Shake up your routine by taking a new route on your commute or taking a walk during your lunch break to change your environment. 

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National Plus Size Appreciation Day

October 6th is National Plus Size Appreciation Day, which was created in 2017 to celebrate body types in all shapes and sizes. It’s also a time to open the conversation about how body image can affect self-esteem. 

What is considered plus size?  In the clothing industry, size 18 and up is considered to be plus size. But in the modeling industry, sizes 6-16 are considered plus size. So in the images we see everywhere in the media, the people modeling the clothes do not reflect the bodies of the people that will be wearing the clothes.  This perpectuates unhealthy and unrealistic expectations about how we should look.

The pressure to be skinny is often cloaked in the message of the need to be healthy.  While there is evidence that weight can impact your health, it’s not the whole story. Everyone can work on engaging in healthy behaviors, which can lead to feeling better about themselves at any size.  This may be eating well, exercising, interacting with friends, not smoking, limiting alcohol intake, regularly seeing your health practitioner, and meditating.  Everyone has a unique body and a unique life that got their body to where it is today.  Accepting others, accepting ourselves, and valuing everyone’s process, can lead us toward connection and away from judgment

Our bodies can be appreciated for all that they can do for us and not just for how we look. Everyone can feel confident in their body and be proud of what they can achieve with the body that they have. 

There are many role models that are leading the charge in body positivity. 

We can look up to powerful women in the media who advocate for self-love, including Lizzo, Demi Lovato, Serena Williams, and Mindy Kaling. They all share the same message: For everyone to love their authentic selves and create a positive relationship with their bodies. 

Let’s all remind ourselves and those around us that we are all valuable. Follow the links below to learn more. 

What Is Body Positivity?

The Path To Self-Acceptance 

Why Body Positivity Matters

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Tips on Talking to Loved Ones in a DV Relationship

By: Betsy Pownall, LPC

It is difficult to know what to say when someone shares that they are in an abusive relationship.

Whether it be a friend, family member, or client, there is this moment of pause~the thought of, “How I respond right now will really matter.’

Here are some tips on what to and not do to/say when someone discloses this vulnerable fact of their lives.

What to say:

  1. “I’m sorry this has happened (or is happening) to you.”

Acknowledge you have heard what has been said, that you heard it and are listening. Acknowledge the courage it takes to disclose abuse and the strength it takes to survive. This is your opportunity to empathize.

  1. “No one deserves to be abused.”

This is a universal statement and an opportunity to connect with the survivor.

  1. “It’s not your fault.”

Don’t minimize the violence or blame the victim. The batterer is accountable and responsible for his/her choices and behaviors.

  1. “You are not alone.”

Violence in relationships is a widespread social problem, yet the victim often feels very alone. By generalizing, we can help the survivor understand that the abuse is not about who they are or what they did but about their partner’s attempt to maintain power and control.

  1. “There is help.”

Empower the survivor by offering information choices, safe space and support.

What not to say/do:

  1. Give advice.
  2. Change the subject.
  3. Ask trivial questions.
  4. Intellectualize the problem.
  5. Become emotional.
  6. Make decisions for them.
  7. Be evasive or elusive.
  8. Handle everything yourself.
  9. Ask ‘why’ questions.
  10. Pity them.
  11. Indulge in silly witticisms.
  12. Become insensitive or cold.
  13. Cut communication.
  14. Be judgmental or rejecting.
  • Don’t blame. The survivor is not at fault for the violence. It is never okay for one person to use force against another. Avoid questions that may sound blaming, such as “why don’t you just leave?”
  • Don’t participate in the denial. Violence does not change on its own; it often escalates. It will not simply ‘get better’.
  • Keep in mind: Battering is against the law.
  • Don’t ignore the danger. Is there a gun in the house? Are there children in the home?
  • Don’t focus on leaving if this does not seem to be a safe option. Help the survivor find ways to be safe.
  • Encourage developing a safety plan.
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Constantly Feeling Rushed?

Do you ever feel like there is just too much on your plate?

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly in a rush to get things done? If so, you’re not alone.

Faster doesn’t always mean better. Feeling rushed or pressured can take the fun out of your daily activities.

Feeling like you must finish something as soon as possible can cause stress and anxiety. The good news is that you don’t have to feel this way. You can change the way you look at and complete your tasks.

Understanding Why We Rush

Understanding the “why” behind our actions can help us better address them.

  • Why do you want to finish your essay in an hour?
  • Why do you want to clean your entire kitchen in one afternoon?

Figuring out the answers can help you look at the bigger picture.

Here are a few personal questions you can reflect on.

  • Do all of my tasks have to be done today?
  • Can any of these tasks be delegated or completed at a later time?
  • Is there anyone in my life who can help me?

Be honest with yourself. The answers may surprise you.

Meeting Your Needs

When our schedules are too full, we sometimes forget to meet our personal needs.

Implementing at least one self-care activity a day can have a significant impact on our mood, sleep and overall wellness.

Our brain can only do so much in one day. If you catch yourself getting tired or overwhelmed, that is your brain telling you; that it’s time to take a break.

Your work isn’t going anywhere. It will still be there tomorrow when you’re ready. And if you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it.

Getting enough sleep, eating healthy meals and relaxing are all forms of self-care.

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How to Foster Happy and Healthy Friendships

The friendships we create have the power to impact our mental health and well-being in so many powerful ways. 

When we have good friends in our corner, we know that there are people who support and encourage us to be our authentic selves. 

That’s why it’s so important to develop healthy and long-lasting friendships. And the key to finding and being a good friend is to look out for the qualities.

Focus On Trust

The best friendships are built on a foundation of trust and confidence. When we open ourselves up to people around us, it can inspire others to do the same. 

It feels good to know that we can count on our friends in times of need and vice versa. 

Trust can show up in many forms and go a long way. Whether it’s having someone who can offer a listening ear or judgment-free advice.

Seek Authenticity

A friend is someone who you can be comfortable being yourself around. And not just for the best moments. 

They are there for you through the ups, the downs, and everything in between. 

So seeking people, we can be authentic with is a good sign for a healthy friendship. It means that you are comfortable telling them your boundaries and communicating when things are on your mind. 

Authentic friends are there to grow with you!

Find Cheerleaders

In times when we feel low, it’s important to have friends who can give compassion and support.

So it’s good to find friends who can be cheerleaders too. Meaning they can celebrate your wins with you or grieve for your losses. 

Good friends will be there to help you no matter what and want to see you succeed. 

“Good friends help you find important things when you have lost them…your smile, your hope, and your courage.” – Doe Zantamata

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Understanding and Moving Past Boredom

What does boredom mean to you?

Do you look at it as a positive, negative or something in between type of emotion?

Do you feel like your habits tend to make you feel bored more easily, such as too much screen time? 

If you could convert boredom into creativity, would you?

So, even though it may not always feel like it, boredom is a feeling – and something we can control.

We just have to put the work in.

The next time you catch boredom creeping up, you can try putting your phone away! 

If you aren’t careful, 10 intended minutes of screen time can turn into an hour.

Social media is a great way to keep in touch with loved ones and can be a great tool when used in moderation.

Sometimes when we start scrolling, it can be hard to stop, and before you know it, the afternoon has escaped you.

Any form of screen time, whether it be scrolling through social media, texting or playing games, can negatively impact our motivation and distract us from our goals.

When we notice boredom creeping up on us, grabbing our phone can feel like the fastest and easiest form of entertainment.

Although it may initially distract you, it likely won’t establish a long-form solution.

Instead, we recommend putting your phone in a different room and immersing yourself in a creative activity. 

Creativity can be practiced in so many ways. It all comes down to finding an activity or two that brings you joy.

Singing, dancing, writing and gardening are all great activities to explore.

What are you waiting for? It’s time to get creative.

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