Active listening isn’t always easy – but the good news is, it can be learned.
Don’t Be a Driver, Be a Passenger
When a friend wants to talk, let them vent.
In certain situations, the best thing you can do for your friend is be there and listen.
Instead of driving the conversation, let them take the wheel and say what’s on their mind.
Hear Between the Lines
Let us know if this scenario sounds familiar.
You: Are you okay? You look a little down?
Friend: Yes, I am fine.
You: Are you sure.
Friend: Ya…
When we’re not feeling our best or having one of those days, it’s so easy to dismiss how we really feel.
Sometimes we can hold our feelings in or deny them without even noticing. Saying everything is fine when it’s not can quickly become a habit.
When we’re having a bad day, little things like burning our toast or losing our keys can be enough to upset us.
If you feel like your friend is holding back their feelings, you can try asking them some open-ended questions and see where the conversation goes.
Wait, Wait, Wait, Respond
You may not always agree with your friends, and that is completely okay.
We all have our own opinions, and you should always stay true to who you are.
Now, just because you don’t agree with what your friend is telling you doesn’t mean you can’t respect their opinion and be there for them.
Even though you may want to jump in and share your 2 cents, let them finish their thought first.
Step Into Their Shoes
Having empathy for friends and family can help you see the world through their eyes.
It can also help us understand them on a deeper level.
“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” – Bryant H. McGill