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Attachment Styles: How We Learn to Connect

By Nooshi Ghasedi

Many of the difficulties people bring into therapy relate to relationships. They may describe feeling anxious about being left, pulling away during conflict, or feeling disconnected, even when they care deeply. These experiences are common and not signs that something is wrong, but reflections on which lessons a person learned about their needs, trust, and safety in early relationships.

Attachment describes how we learn to seek closeness, respond to emotional needs (including our own), and protect ourselves when connection feels uncertain. These patterns begin early in life, shaped by experiences of care, consistency, and emotional responsiveness. Driven by an innate human will to survive, we develop patterns that make sense in the environments where they formed.

As adults, these patterns often show up most clearly in close relationships. Intimate connections tend to activate old expectations about closeness, safety, and emotional availability. People may find themselves reacting in ways that feel familiar but frustrating, even when they have insight or
strong intentions to do otherwise.

Attachment is often described using categories such as secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Developed by psychology pioneers Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby, the concept attachment is meant to offer language that helps us understand our emotions and behaviors in relationships. Most people recognize aspects of more than one pattern, and attachment can look different depending on the relationship or the level of stress involved.

Secure attachment is associated with a general sense that relationships are safe and that conflicts can be resolved. Anxious attachment often involves sensitivity to emotional distance and a strong pull toward reassurance and closeness. Avoidant attachment may show up as discomfort with vulnerability or a tendency to withdraw when emotional intensity increases. 

Disorganized attachment can involve mixed and conflicting responses to closeness and is often shaped by relational unpredictability or trauma early in life.

It is important to note that the framework of attachment does not explain everything about how people relate, as relational patterns are also shaped by social and cultural contexts. Ongoing stress related to finances, housing, health, discrimination, or immigration can affect emotional
availability and reactivity in ways that have little to do with early attachment. Cultural norms influence how closeness, emotion, and independence are expressed. 

Gender socialization, neurodivergence, later-life trauma, and unequal power dynamics within relationships can all shape how people show up with one another. In these cases, behaviors that appear to be attachment patterns may be better understood as adaptations to real and ongoing circumstances.

What matters most is not identifying a label but understanding that these patterns are learned, responsive to context, and therefore can be changed. Over time, many people develop greater flexibility in how they relate, such as through corrective experiences in an emotionally safe relationship, self-reflection, and therapeutic support. The process is gradual and focuses on slowly expanding tolerance for closeness, repair, and emotional presence.

You may find it helpful to reflect on the following questions with curiosity and compassion:

  • How do you tend to respond when you feel disconnected?
  • What helps you feel emotionally safe during conflict?
  • What patterns seem to repeat in your relationships?

Understanding our patterns provides us with the insight we need to make meaningful changes in our lives. With awareness and support, there is room for our patterns to shift, allowing relationships to feel more stable and more supportive over time.

Lunar New Year: A Meaningful Transition

By Nooshi Ghasedi

Lunar New Year is observed across many cultures as a time of transition and renewal. Rooted in the lunar calendar, it reflects the natural rhythms of change and the gradual movement from one season to the next. For many families and communities, it marks a meaningful moment to
pause, take stock of the year that has passed, and consider what feels ready to unfold.

In the days leading up to the new year, there is often an emphasis on clearing and settling. Homes are cleaned, unfinished business is addressed, and attention is given to what feels unresolved. While these practices are practical, they also carry emotional meaning. They reflect a shared understanding that the weight of a year accumulates and that entering a new chapter feels different after taking time to tend to what was unfinished.

This year is the Year of the Horse in the Chinese zodiac. The Horse is often associated with movement, vitality, and forward energy. It suggests momentum that comes from preparation and progress that builds over time. In a moment when many people feel stretched thin or pressured to keep up, this symbolism offers a quiet reminder that movement need not be rushed to be meaningful.

Lunar New Year also places strong emphasis on family, shared meals, and honoring those who came before. These traditions acknowledge that our sense of stability and identity is shaped through relationships and continuity. The holiday recognizes that growth does not happen in isolation, but within the context of connection, history, and belonging.

From a mental health perspective, the Lunar New Year offers a more humane way of thinking about change by allowing space for reflection without requiring immediate resolution. It recognizes cycles, limits, and timing, and invites mindful consideration of what feels ready to unfold while acknowledging what may still need care or patience.

Lunar New Year invites a different kind of attention. It encourages reflection on what feels complete and what remains unresolved. It asks us to consider where movement feels possible, where patience is still needed, and what kind of care would support the season ahead. If you feel called to reflect, consider this: As this new season begins, what feels ready for your attention?

 

Notes on Self Love

By: Mindy Laroco

Common messaging we’re given about love — whether it’s from movies, TV shows, cultural values, or society (especially now as we enter February and Valentine’s Day approaches) — tends to be very focused on loving other people. 

And while love for romantic partners, family members, and friends is important, the lack of messaging about how self-love is equally as important makes it easy for us to forget that building and strengthening our relationship to ourselves is a priority for healthy, balanced relationships overall. I would argue that our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship of all. I mean, who is going to spend more time with you… than you? 

Now, you may be thinking, what is self-love? It can be challenging to understand what this is because it looks different for everyone. I think a helpful way to think about self-love is to focus on what helps you feel connected, appreciative, and curious about yourself. What are activities or ways that you like to spend time that allow you to feel like you can just exist as yourself without any external expectations? Are there things that you’ve wanted to try that you just haven’t for whatever reason? Some of the goals of practicing self-love are to show up for yourself, understand yourself better,  and meet your own needs. It can be hard to know where to start, but regardless of where you are on your journey with yourself, I invite you to consider an activity I have to offer that focuses on self-love. 

A self-love practice

You may or may not be familiar with the 5 love languages (Quality time, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Gift Giving, and Physical Touch), and while they are usually discussed when talking about giving and receiving love to/from others, I think they are a great way to also practice self-love! For this practice, the goal is to come up with ways that you can love yourself using the 5 love languages. Below, I will give some examples, but I encourage you to get creative, think outside the box, and focus on what is going to make you feel the most loved. (And if you’re still not sure, that’s okay, have fun with curiosity about yourself!) 

  • Quality time 
    • For quality time, think about ways that leave you feeling rejuvenated afterward and focus on what you want to do. This is time meant for you, so spend it in a way that feels honoring to yourself! I like to think of this time as a “solo date.” Treat yourself 🙂
      • Some examples are reading, creating art (of any kind), going to your favorite restaurant and getting your favorite meal, watching your favorite movies or shows, journaling, checking out a place that you’ve always wanted to go to but have not been to yet (i.e., a museum, bookstore, etc.) 
        • Something that can add to this time with yourself is staying off your phone if you can. Try to be present with yourself, with whatever you choose to do! 
  • Acts of Service 
    • This can be any action that contributes to a sense of ease and relaxation. What are things that are going to make your life easier either in the moment or in the future? 
      • Some examples are cleaning, meal prepping, picking out a cute outfit that you feel good in even if you’re just going to run errands, preparing things for yourself that you might need for the next morning/day so that you don’t have to spend time getting all of your things together or rushing, making sure basic hygiene needs are met, drinking enough water, eating a nutritious meal,  etc. 
  • Words of Affirmation 
    • Words of Affirmation can be challenging because it may feel foreign or awkward to praise yourself or say affirming things to yourself. I would encourage you to try giving yourself affirmations despite this. Usually, things that feel new won’t feel natural, but over time, they will! 
      • Digging deeper into this category can be really helpful because, while affirmations like “I am enough” and “I am worthy of love” are wonderful to use, having more specific affirmations about yourself adds an extra layer of intimacy with the self. Some examples of more specific affirmation are: 
        • “I am really proud of myself for ___”
        • “I did really well at ____” 
        • “One of my favorite things about myself is ____” 
      • The key is to make the affirmations specific to you and to practice appreciation for who you are! 
  • Gift Giving
    • I will echo what I mentioned under Quality Time, treat yourself! Gift giving does not need to be expensive; I’m not asking you to break the bank here.
      •  Some examples of gift giving could be as simple as buying your favorite candy or snack, visiting a used bookstore, going to the library and getting a new book that you’ve never heard of but sounds interesting, or cooking or making your favorite meal (or a new meal you’ve been wanting to try). What’s something that you can give yourself that helps you feel special or like you’re really devoting love to yourself? 
  • Physical Touch
    • When focusing on physical touch, think about ways you can ground yourself in your body. What helps you feel more connected to yourself physically?
      • This can look like creating a stretching routine to take care of your body daily, booking a massage for yourself, doing a body-scan meditation, going to the gym, playing a sport, and even giving yourself a hug. This can also look like dressing in an outfit that you feel expresses you authentically, or wearing your coziest clothes to do an activity of your choice at home. 

I hope that this practice leaves you with something. Even if it is just the idea to prioritize self-love more. If you tried this practice, I hope you found it helpful, and if it was hard, I hope you don’t give up. You deserve to be the priority in your own life, and that starts with loving yourself in every aspect of your life.



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National Missing Persons Day – Disproportionate Risk in Indigenous Populations

By: Claire Butcher

In 2018, Jo Ann Lowitzer founded National Missing Persons Day after her daughter went missing in 2010, hoping to spread awareness and education about the often overlooked tragedies that occur on a daily basis. February 3rd now marks a day where we can further shed light on the ongoing crisis of missing and murdered people, specifically those who are at much higher risk.

Native American Disproportionate Risk

Native and Indigenous populations are disproportionately targeted in missing persons cases, often resulting in investigations being ignored, inaccurately recorded, and incomplete. The National Crime Information Center reported 5,487 cases of missing Native American women and girls in 2022. 

The majority of these people were aged 0-17. In 2024, there were 10,248 reported cases of missing American Indian and Alaska Native people, 6,871 of whom were under 18 years old. This disproportionate trend of Native missing persons is attributed to a long history of racism, poor record keeping, and a lack of media attention. 

Systemic Racism and Its Impact

Alongside the cultural genocide and displacement of millions of Natives, negative and racist stereotypes continue to play a role in the lack of investigation and prosecution of missing persons incidents.

Victims are often blamed due to struggles involving substance use and homelessness, and dehumanization and hyper-sexualization of Native women have contributed to the lack of assistance and higher rates of human trafficking. A study in 2021 shed light on the lack of initial reports made due to the fear and mistrust of law enforcement and the expectation that their cases would not be properly investigated. Their hesitations are justified, as in 2016 the National Crime Information Center reported 5,712 missing Native American women and girls, the National Missing and Unidentified Persons System (NamUs) only logged 116 of said cases. Research has also found that a significant number of Native women are misclassified as Hispanic or Asian on missing persons forms, further complicating searches.

A history of discriminatory policy also plays a strong role in the lack of investigations and prosecutions. The Oliphant v. Suquamish Indian Tribe (1978) Supreme Court ruled that non-Native men who assault or murder Native women on reservations cannot be arrested or prosecuted by tribal authorities. Despite being partially overturned in 2013 and 2022 with additions to the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), political protections are still sparse for Native populations. 

Missing, Sexual Assault, and Homicide AI/AN Statistics at a Glance

  • More than 4 in 5 AI/AN women have experienced violence in their lifetime
  • More than half (56.1%) of AI/AN women have experienced sexual violence in their lifetime
  • More than half (55.5%) of AI/AN women have experienced physical violence by intimate partners in their lifetime, 48.8% have been stalked 
  • AI/AN women are almost twice as likely to have experienced rape compared to non-Hispanic white women
  • AI/ANs are four times more likely to go missing in Montana, and add up to over a quarter of missing persons reports
  • The average missing time for AI/AN women in Arizona in 2020 was 21 years, with 28% of cases caused by homicide by intimate partners
  • Homicide rates for AI/AN women in Wyoming was 6.4 times higher than homicide rates for non-Hispanic White women in 2020
  • AI/AN women are “over-represented as domestic violence victims” in Alaska by 250%
  • In a 2019 survey conducted in Washington consisting of 148 respondents, 94% of AI/AN women report having been raped or coerced in their lifetime

How You Can Help

Action must be taken to reverse the overwhelming statistics of AI/AN missing and murdered persons. Here are some ways we can help: 

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Black History Month and The Importance of Black Joy

By: Molly Mazur

Black Joy is Resistance

Throughout Black History, joy has never been easy or accidental; rather, it has been a deliberate act of resistance. In the face of slavery, violence, murder, and ongoing systemic oppression, Black communities have maintained their humanity through joy. In spaces like barbershops, protest lines, churches, and other black spaces, Black culture is radiated through music, storytelling, laughter, dance, and community. These are not distractions from struggle, but strategies for survival. Through Black joy, a dominant narrative of suffering is disrupted, rewritten to affirm spirit, humanism, and tenacity. 

The Healing Power of Joy

Joy is a form of survival for Black people, not a luxury. It can be challenging to create space for joy amidst feelings of grief, systemic injustice, and modern racism. Using joy as a healing strategy can promote empowerment and hope, leading to positive change. Seeking joy in your daily life through humor, music, celebration, and community is what Black communities have paved the way in wellness for centuries. Taking a note from their playbook can create a substantial shift in mindset, from pain management to healing the nervous system by actively choosing joy. 

Protecting Black Joy

Black joy has been historically minimized, and has led to violence, policing, and death. In a system where black oppression is exhausted, protecting black joy is a necessary and intentional act. Below are ways to take action and guard joy as a form of resistance and care to be on the right side of history: 

  • Celebrate Black culture: uplift Black culture in your community by supporting Black-owned businesses, engage in collective efforts of resistance, and make space to experience Black art, music, history, and celebrations.
  • Joy without Justification: In times of political upheaval, instead of erasing joy, demand it. Joy is an act of resistance and reminds others that survival is not a solo act. Joy is not avoidance; it’s self-care. 
  • Set Boundaries Unapologetically: Protecting Black joy requires removing the things that threaten it. Reflect on the spaces, relationships, and systems in your life that provoke racism. Setting those boundaries can be really difficult, but they are required for Black culture to flourish and for new histories rooted in justice, liberation, and joy to be written.
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How Your Interests Buffer Work Stress

Work stress has a sneaky way of shrinking your world. Deadlines loom large, problems feel personal, and every task can start to feel urgent and heavy. One of the most underrated ways to counteract this? Your interests outside of work.

Hobbies, passions, and side curiosities aren’t just “extras” you squeeze in after hours; they actively protect your mental health and improve how you function at work. Here’s how your interests quietly buffer work stress and make you better at what you do.

They Put Your Work Pressures in Perspective

When work is your only mental landscape, every setback feels catastrophic. A missed deadline or critical feedback can seem like a referendum on your worth. Interests outside of work expand your sense of identity and remind you that your job is just one part of a much larger life.

Whether it’s running, painting, volunteering, gaming, or learning a language, these pursuits anchor you in experiences where success and failure have lower stakes. That distance makes it easier to step back and say, “This is stressful, but it’s not everything.” Perspective doesn’t eliminate pressure but it keeps it from consuming you.

They Give You New Problem-Solving Tools

Different interests train different kinds of thinking. A hobby that challenges you like cooking, music, sports, or strategy games forces your brain to approach problems in new ways.

Over time, those skills quietly transfer back into your work. You may become more comfortable experimenting, iterating, or sitting with uncertainty. You might notice patterns faster or approach obstacles with more curiosity and less panic. When your brain has multiple toolkits to draw from, work problems stop feeling like dead ends and start looking like puzzles.

They Develop Your Creative Abilities

Creativity isn’t limited to artistic roles. Every job requires creative thinking, finding better workflows, communicating ideas clearly, or adapting to change. Interests outside of work are often where creativity gets real practice.

When you write, build, design, or explore purely for enjoyment, you exercise imagination without performance pressure. That freedom strengthens your ability to generate ideas, make unexpected connections, and think flexibly. Even if your job is highly structured, creative interests help keep your thinking fluid instead of rigid—an essential buffer against burnout.

They Provide Fresh Frameworks for Structuring Projects

Many interests come with built-in systems: training plans, story arcs, practice routines, or iterative improvement cycles. Over time, you internalize these frameworks without realizing it.

Later, when work projects feel chaotic, you may instinctively borrow from those structures—breaking tasks into stages, setting milestones, or focusing on process over outcome. Familiar frameworks reduce cognitive load and make complex work feel more manageable. That sense of structure can significantly lower stress, especially during high-pressure periods.

The Bigger Picture

Your interests don’t distract you from work—they support you through it. They widen your perspective, sharpen your thinking, and give your mind places to rest and reset. In a culture that often glorifies nonstop productivity, protecting time for what you love isn’t indulgent. It’s strategic.

The more fully you engage with your interests, the more resilient you become not just as a worker, but as a person.

 

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Things Parents Can Do to Keep Kids Safe When Using Screens

Here are five practical things parents can do to help kids build healthier, safer relationships with screens.

Set Reasonable Limits for Family Media Use

Clear boundaries help kids understand that screens are just one part of life, not the center of it. Setting reasonable limits on screen time (such as no devices during meals or before bedtime) creates predictable routines and reduces power struggles. When limits are consistent and age-appropriate, kids are more likely to accept them and learn to manage their own media use over time.

Encourage Alternative Activities

Kids don’t need screens to stay entertained, but sometimes they need help remembering that. Encourage activities that don’t involve devices, such as playing board games, doing puzzles, shooting hoops, or reading books together. You can also support hobbies that match your child’s interests, like painting, crafting, hiking, climbing, chess, or birdwatching. When kids discover activities they truly enjoy, screens naturally become less dominant.

Model Healthy Relationships With Screens

Kids learn more from what we do than what we say. If parents are constantly scrolling, checking notifications, or multitasking on devices, children will notice. Modeling healthy screen habits, like putting your phone away during conversations or taking breaks from devices, shows kids what balanced media use actually looks like. Being a good screen-time role model may be one of the most powerful tools parents have.

Insist on Screen-Free Bedrooms

Keeping screens out of bedrooms helps protect sleep, privacy, and emotional well-being. Devices in bedrooms make it harder for kids to unplug, fall asleep, and avoid content they’re not ready for. Screen-free bedrooms also reduce late-night scrolling and encourage better rest, which is essential for growing minds and bodies.

Be Unafraid of “Bored Time”

Boredom isn’t something parents need to fix, it’s something kids can learn from. When children aren’t constantly entertained by screens, they’re more likely to develop creativity, problem-solving skills, and independence. Allowing kids to experience boredom gives them space to imagine, explore, and figure out how to occupy their time on their own.

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How to Combat Irrational Thoughts

We all have thoughts that feel loud, convincing, and urgent, especially the negative ones. But here’s an important truth that often gets lost in the noise: we are not the sum of our negative thoughts. A thought, no matter how persistent, is not a fact. And when we forget this, irrational thinking can quietly take over.

Irrational thoughts sit at the root of much of the emotional distress people experience. They tell us stories that feel real but are often exaggerated, distorted, or completely untrue. “This will always be this way.” “I can’t handle this.” “I must have this now, or everything falls apart.” These thoughts create pressure, anxiety, and fear, not because of reality itself, but because of how we interpret it.

One of the most revealing things about irrational thinking is how temporary our desires really are. What we believe we must have today may not even matter to us tomorrow. Our minds are constantly shifting, yet we treat today’s thoughts and cravings as permanent truths. When we pause and recognize how quickly our wants and fears change, their grip begins to loosen.

Learning to combat irrational thoughts doesn’t mean eliminating them. It means noticing them without automatically obeying them. Instead of asking, “Is this thought true?” a better question might be, “Is this thought helpful?” That simple shift can create space between us and our emotions, allowing clarity to return.

To become more tolerant of life’s unpredictable surprises, we can also learn from other cultures. Many cultures place less emphasis on control and certainty, and more on acceptance, patience, and adaptability. Rather than resisting uncertainty, they expect it. Life is understood as fluid, not fixed, something to move with, not dominate. This mindset can soften our response to discomfort and reduce the urgency behind irrational thoughts.

When we stop treating every thought as an emergency and every desire as a necessity, we begin to experience emotional freedom. Life becomes less about fighting what is and more about responding with curiosity and compassion. And in that space, irrational thoughts lose their power,not because they disappear, but because we no longer let them define us.



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5 Ways to Learn to Love Self-Discipline

For many people, self-discipline feels like punishment. It’s associated with restriction, rigidity, and forcing yourself to do things you don’t want to do. No wonder it’s so hard to stick with.

But self-discipline doesn’t have to feel like a battle. When you approach it differently, it can become something you appreciate—even enjoy. Instead of being about control, it becomes about freedom: the freedom to act in alignment with your goals, values, and future self.

Here are five ways to change how you relate to self-discipline and learn to love it.

Let Success at Self-Discipline Fan Out

Self-discipline compounds. When you succeed in one small area, the effects naturally spill over into others.

Waking up earlier might lead to better mornings. Better mornings might lead to improved focus. Improved focus might lead to better work and suddenly your confidence grows. You begin to see yourself as someone who follows through.

Instead of trying to overhaul your entire life at once, focus on winning in one narrow, manageable area. Let that success fan out. Momentum is one of the most underrated aspects of self-discipline, and it’s far more powerful than willpower alone.

Link Self-Discipline to Something You Value Highly

Self-discipline feels unbearable when it’s disconnected from meaning.

If your habits are rooted in “shoulds” or external pressure, they’ll always feel heavy. But when self-discipline is clearly tied to something you deeply care about—your health, your family, your creativity, your independence it takes on a different emotional tone.

Ask yourself: What does this discipline protect or make possible?

Going to the gym isn’t about suffering—it’s about energy, confidence, and longevity. Saving money isn’t about deprivation, it’s about freedom and security.

When discipline serves your values, it stops feeling like self-denial and starts feeling like self-respect.

Disconnect Your Version of Self-Discipline From Your Stereotypes

Many people reject self-discipline because they’re reacting to a stereotype: the joyless, hyper-controlled, always-grinding version of discipline.

That version is optional.

Your self-discipline doesn’t have to look harsh or extreme. It can be flexible, compassionate, and tailored to how you work best. You can build structure without becoming rigid. You can be consistent without being perfectionistic.

Redefine discipline as support, not punishment. It’s a system that helps you do what matters, not a personality trait you’re either born with or not.

Invest Equally in the Self-Discipline of Less and the Self-Discipline of More

Self-discipline isn’t only about doing more, it’s also about doing less.

We often celebrate discipline when it shows up as productivity, hustle, and achievement. But restraint, rest, and saying no require just as much discipline.

Turning off your phone. Leaving work on time. Skipping something that drains you. These are acts of discipline too.

When you value both sides effort and recovery, action and restraint you create a balanced relationship with discipline. It stops being about pushing endlessly and starts being about choosing wisely.

Treat Self-Discipline Like a Type of Fitness You Can Build

Self-discipline isn’t fixed. It’s trainable.

Just like physical fitness, it improves with practice, consistency, and patience. You wouldn’t expect to lift heavy weights on your first day at the gym, so why expect perfect discipline from day one?

Start small. Build gradually. Allow rest days. Expect setbacks. Progress comes from repetition, not intensity.

When you see discipline as a skill you’re developing rather than a moral test you remove shame from the process. And without shame, growth becomes much easier.

 

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3 Ways to Turn Overthinking Into Your Ultimate Superpower

Overthinking gets a bad reputation. It’s often framed as the enemy of productivity, peace, and progress. But what if overthinking isn’t the problem? What if it’s simply misdirected energy?

At its core, overthinking is a sign of a sharp, attentive mind one that notices patterns, anticipates outcomes, and cares deeply. When channeled correctly, it can become one of your greatest strengths.

Here are three powerful ways to turn overthinking into your ultimate superpower.

Turn Overthinking Into Organization

Overthinkers are natural information collectors. Your mind constantly gathers details, connections, and possibilities, so instead of letting them swirl chaotically, give them a system.

Turn mental loops into lists.
Turn anxiety into action plans.
Turn scattered thoughts into structured frameworks.

Whether it’s journaling, task mapping, or creating step-by-step processes, organization gives your thoughts a home. Once your ideas are written down and categorized, your brain can finally breathe—and focus on execution instead of repetition.

Pro tip: If a thought keeps returning, it’s not asking for attention—it’s asking for structure.

Counter “What If” With “Then What”

Overthinking thrives on unanswered questions, especially “What if?” scenarios that spiral into worst-case outcomes.

The solution isn’t to shut them down. It’s to finish the thought.

When your brain asks, “What if this goes wrong?” respond with, “Then what?”

  • What would you actually do?
  • What’s within your control?
  • What’s the most likely—not the most dramatic—outcome?

Most fears lose their power once you walk them all the way through. By following the chain to its logical conclusion, you replace vague anxiety with concrete options. Suddenly, you’re not stuck you’re prepared.

Channel Overthinking Into Foresight

Overthinking is future-focused by nature. Instead of letting it fuel worry, use it to fuel wisdom.

Your ability to anticipate challenges, spot gaps, and imagine outcomes is the same skill great planners, leaders, and creators rely on. The key difference? Direction.

Ask yourself:

  • How can this thought help me prepare, not panic?
  • What insight is this trying to show me?
  • How can I use this awareness to make a better decision today?

When you shift from fear-based thinking to intention-based thinking, overthinking becomes foresight and foresight is power.

Final Thought

You don’t need to “stop overthinking.” You need to lead it.

With structure, completion, and purpose, the very thing you once saw as a weakness can become your edge. Overthinking isn’t your enemy, it’s untapped potential waiting for direction.

Turn it into your superpower.



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Reasons You Should Take Up Birdwatching This Year

If you’re looking for a hobby that’s relaxing, affordable, and surprisingly exciting, birdwatching might be exactly what you need. Whether you live in a city, a suburb, or the countryside, birding offers a simple way to connect with nature and improve your well-being. Here are a few great reasons to give birdwatching a try this year.

Birdwatching Gets You Outside

Birding naturally encourages you to step away from screens and spend time outdoors. Instead of staying inside, you’ll find yourself exploring parks, trails, backyards, and even local streets. Fresh air and time in nature can boost your mood and help you feel more refreshed and focused.

Watching Birds Encourages Movement

You don’t need to be an athlete to enjoy birdwatching, but it often involves walking, hiking, or standing for long periods while observing wildlife. This gentle exercise adds up over time and helps keep you active without feeling like a workout. Even a slow walk while scanning trees and skies can be great for your body.

Birds Are Everywhere

One of the best things about birdwatching is how accessible it is. You can find birds almost anywhere outside your window, in your backyard, at school, or in a nearby park. You don’t need expensive equipment or to travel far to start noticing different species.

Birds Love Beautiful Places

Many birds are drawn to environments we already find beautiful, such as beaches, forests, lakes, and gardens. This means birdwatching often takes you to scenic locations where you can enjoy both wildlife and stunning views. It’s a great way to slow down and appreciate the natural world around you.

A Hobby That Grows With You

Birdwatching can be as simple or as detailed as you want it to be. You can casually enjoy spotting birds, or you can learn to identify species, track sightings, and understand bird behavior. No matter how you approach it, birding offers something new to discover every time you go outside.

This year, consider picking up a pair of binoculars or just using your eyes and see what birds you can find. You might be surprised by how rewarding birdwatching can be.

 

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Giving Back to Our Communities

This month Vista staff worked on ways to give back to our communities during the holiday season.  Here are some of the ways we worked to share some joy

If you would like to donate to any of these amazing organizations, click the links.  We wish you all peace and happiness in the new year!