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How to Live in the Present Moment

Jaclyn Baker

Uncertainty triggers anxiety, and our brains perceive this as a threat. Many people respond by retreating or constantly worrying about the future, which can lead to physical symptoms like headaches and insomnia. Living in the present moment reduces this negativity, increases resilience, and empowers us to make thoughtful decisions.

How to Stay Grounded in the Now

Mindfulness practices like focusing on your breath and body sensations can help you stay connected to the present. Mental reframing allows you to challenge unhelpful thoughts and replace them with more constructive ones. Entering a state of “flow” by engaging in an enjoyable activity that challenges you can also dissolve worries and bring peace to your mind.

Simple Steps to Stay Present

  1. Pause and Acknowledge: Stop and recognize when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
  2. Deep Breathing: Try box breathing—inhale for 4 counts, hold for 4, exhale for 6.
  3. Engage Your Senses: Focus on what you can see, hear, feel, smell, and taste.
  4. Gratitude: Reflect on something you’re grateful for right now.
  5. Physical Movement: Stretch or take a short walk to re-center yourself.

Benefits of Present-Moment Living

Living in the present moment helps you make better decisions, reduces stress, and strengthens connections with others. Mindful living also enhances empathy, which is crucial during times of crisis, allowing for thoughtful action rather than reactive impulses. By staying present, you can improve both your emotional health and your ability to impact the world around you.

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How Much Screen Time Is Too Much for Kids Under 5?

Jaclyn Baker

Let’s be honest — screens are everywhere. From tablets and smartphones to TVs in waiting rooms, it feels impossible to keep our kids away from screens 24/7. And for parents who need just five minutes to make dinner or answer an email, handing over a tablet can feel like a lifesaver.

But how much is too much when it comes to screen time for our littlest ones?

Why It Matters

We all know screen time can be fun (and sometimes educational!). But for kids under 5, too much of it can actually slow down their language development and social skills. Little kids learn best by interacting — chatting with you, playing pretend, exploring the backyard. When screens take over, they miss out on that hands-on learning.

So, What’s the Limit?

Most experts, like the American Academy of Pediatrics, suggest avoiding screens altogether for kids under 18 months (except for video chatting with Grandma — that’s totally fine!). For kids ages 2 to 5, they recommend about an hour per day of high-quality content, ideally watched together so you can talk about what they’re seeing.

Quality Over Quantity

It’s not just about how long they’re watching — what they’re watching matters too. Shows and apps designed for young children can help them learn new words and ideas, especially if you sit with them and chat about it. Think Sesame Street over mindless YouTube scrolling.

Tips for Keeping Screen Time in Check

Let’s be real — no parent is perfect, and screens can be helpful in moderation. Here are a few ideas to help keep things balanced:

  • Make screen time interactive. Watch with your child and ask questions.

  • Set up screen-free zones. Keep mealtimes and bedrooms device-free.

  • Offer other activities. Have art supplies, books, or building blocks handy.

  • Be a good role model. Kids learn from watching you — so put your phone down too!

At the end of the day, a little screen time isn’t the end of the world. But being mindful about how much (and what) your child watches can make a big difference in their early development.

So go ahead — enjoy a cozy movie morning or a quick video call with family. Just remember: nothing beats good old-fashioned playtime, a messy craft project, or a backyard adventure.

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8 Steps To Make Peace With Your Past Self

Jaclyn Baker

Are past mistakes and regrets holding you back? It’s time to make peace with your former self and embrace a more fulfilling future. Here are eight steps to help you heal and move forward with confidence.

Practice Empathy

Start by understanding your younger self. Recognize that your circumstances and limited life experience shaped your past actions. Treat yourself with compassion instead of judgment.

Embrace Your Humanity

No one is perfect. Accept that your flaws and mistakes are part of being human. Embracing your imperfections allows you to release shame and guilt from the past.

Forgive Yourself

Forgiving your past self is essential for healing. You did the best you could at the time with the knowledge and tools you had. Let go of regret and give yourself permission to move forward.

Accept the Past

You can’t change what’s already happened, but you can choose to accept it. Stop living in regret and start focusing on creating a better future for yourself.

Take Ownership

Acknowledge the impact of your past actions and take responsibility. Owning your mistakes shows maturity and helps you grow, making it easier to move past guilt.

Make Amends

While you can’t go back in time, you can still make things right by taking positive actions today. Seek opportunities to make amends and rebuild relationships.

Be Your Best Self

Choose to be the person you aspire to be. Set intentions for your personal growth and align your actions with your values. Your future self will thank you.

Live Your Best Life

Let go of past baggage and focus on living a life full of purpose, joy, and fulfillment. Define what your “best life” looks like and take steps toward it every day.

Move Forward with Confidence

Making peace with your past self is the key to living a more meaningful life. By embracing empathy, forgiveness, and personal growth, you can let go of past wounds and create a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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10 Bold Ways to Reclaim Your Autonomy

Jaclyn Baker

Ever feel like you need a hall pass just to follow your own instincts? You’re not alone—but here’s the truth: you’re already allowed to live more freely than you think. You just haven’t given yourself the green light. Let’s fix that.

Here are 10 small-but-mighty ways to flex your autonomy—no gatekeepers, no guilt, just you, doing more of what you want.

Do Something Just Because You Want To

That $15 gym pass? Worth it—even if you only go once. You don’t need a spreadsheet of logic to justify a joy.

Try the Long Shot

Who says you need a 95% success rate to try? Go for that dream job, wild recipe, or off-the-wall idea—especially if the risk is low and the payoff could be huge.

Ignore Labels That Don’t Serve You

You’re not a “Winter.” Or a “non-runner.” Or “too old for that.” Wear the color. Take the class. Defy the box.

Break Your Own Weird Rules

Can’t do yoga until you’ve strength trained? Why not? You’re the boss of your schedule, not some made-up order of operations.

Ditch or Switch a Routine

Habits help—but they’re not sacred. Mix it up. Take a new route. Let your creativity breathe.

Create Something Wild

Paint your fence bright purple. Start a podcast. Decorate cakes like you’re on Netflix. If you feel the itch to make, scratch it.

Try Without Knowing Everything

You don’t need 20 hours of research to try salsa dancing or archery. Let curiosity lead—then decide if it’s for you.

Quit What Doesn’t Spark Joy (or Even Mild Interest)

Halfway through a book and bored? Close it. Spent money on a class but hate it? Walk away. Sunk cost isn’t a life sentence.

Do It Even If Someone Complains

They can whine, but if they can’t stop you, why let it stop you? Go to that art retreat. Watch that play solo. They’ll survive.

Ask Questions

Curious minds make great explorers. Ask strangers for life hacks. Interview people for fun. Let your curiosity roam.

Give Yourself a Little Yes

Small acts of autonomy build confidence. Do something tiny today that reminds you: you’re allowed. No one’s coming to hand you permission. You already have it. Go use it.

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Juneteenth is an Oregon State Holiday

Jaclyn Baker

By: Tanya Kramer

On June 1, 2021, the Oregon Senate passed House Bill 2168. This State Bill makes Juneteenth an official state holiday on every June 19th starting in 2022. This Bill acknowledges Oregon’s racist roots, the freedom of slaves, and celebrates Black Americans accomplishments both in our history along with the present day.

Juneteenth is a historical marker of when the last slaves received the news that the Emancipation Proclamation was signed and every slave was informed of their freedom, which

was on June 19, 1865. On this date, Union General Gordon Granger rode into Galveston, Texas to provide the news of freedom to more than 250,000 enslaved African Americans in Texas The House Bill 2168 recognizes Clara Peoples as key to Oregon recognizing Juneteenth. Clara Peoples, sometimes referred to as the “Mother of Juneteenth”, was from Moskogee, Oklahoma. 

She came to Vanport, Oregon to work in the town’s shipyards. She was surprised to learn from her Black co-workers that many of them had never heard of Juneteenth. On June 19, 1945, Clara Peoples hosted one of the Portland area’s first Juneteenth picnics for hundreds of shipyard employees. Over the years she continued to find ways to celebrate Juneteenth, and in 1972, Peoples and another person named Ora Lee Green organized Portland’s first Juneteenth parade and public celebration which has continued ever since. Peoples passed away at the age of 89 on October 5, 2015. 

However, her work continues with her family. Her niece took over the Juneteenth planning in 2011 and her granddaughter has been continuing this work since 2015. The yearly parade was renamed in 2015, the Clara Peoples Freedom Parade in her memory

and honor. The “Juneteenth Oregon” Non-profit (https://juneteenthor.com/about-us/ ) was established to carry on Clara Peoples passion and legacy to always embrace this important history. As Oregon Sen. Lew Frederick said during his Oregon Senate signing of the bill “Celebrating Juneteenth will help each of us remember all that we can and must do to ensure a more just future.”



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Shaped by Immigration: Strength Across Generations

Jaclyn Baker

By Nooshi Ghasedi, MA, NCC

My parents immigrated from Iran to the U.S. shortly before the Iranian revolution in 1979, leaving behind the familiar in search of safety, opportunity, and a new beginning. While they were excited to come to this new land that they hoped would fulfill their ambitions, they were also motivated by political events in their homeland that put their lives and future at risk. Leaving their home, the culture, the language—everything they had ever known—was a difficult, if not traumatizing, experience. But their hopes and dreams encouraged the biggest trust fall of their lives, and they made their way to America. 

I was born in the U.S. a short time after they arrived here, raised between two worlds—one rooted in tradition and memory, the other defined by the fast-moving rhythms of American life. Though I didn’t live their story through their eyes, it has shaped me in countless, quiet ways. 

From an early age, I absorbed the values my parents carried with them across oceans and borders. Perseverance in the face of uncertainty. Resourcefulness in new environments. A deep respect for education, family, and community. These weren’t things we talked about often—but they were modeled daily. Their example laid a foundation for how I move through the world: with purpose, humility, and a sense of responsibility that stretches beyond myself.

Navigating two cultural identities—being Iranian at home and American outside—wasn’t a seamless experience. I often felt out of place in both spaces. I stood between worlds, my feet resting on the banks of a stream that carried the weight of two cultures—never quite anchored, yet always in motion. I recall the pressure I felt to honor the customs of my ancestors while also assimilating into the dominant culture of my community. 

But over time, I came to see this duality not as a conflict, but as a strength. It taught me to listen more carefully, to hold multiple perspectives at once, and to find common ground in difference. In my professional life, these abilities have helped me build trust, adapt to complexity, and show up with empathy and curiosity.

As a second-generation immigrant, I’ve often felt a quiet motivation to succeed—not for the sake of achievement alone, but as a way to honor the sacrifices my family and my ancestors made. It’s a subtle pressure that many children of immigrants know well: to make it matter, to give back, to do something meaningful with the opportunities we’ve been given–the truest of collectivist expectations. That sense of purpose has shown up in me as advocacy, letting my voice be heard when so many are silenced, and standing tall in the face of bias and discrimination. While it doesn’t always show up in loud or dramatic ways, it’s still there—steady, motivating, and deeply personal.

My story isn’t unique, and that’s part of why I share it. So many colleagues, clients, and community members carry their own versions of this legacy—stories of resilience, adaptation, and quiet strength. I believe these lived experiences enrich our workplaces and our world in ways that often go unseen. In telling this story, I hope to honor not just where I come from, but also the shared human experiences that connect us all: the desire to belong, the effort to bridge difference, and the resilience it takes to build something new.



What Is DEI Really? A Therapist’s Perspective on Why It Matters

Jaclyn Baker

By Nooshi Ghasedi, MA, NCC

If you’ve been paying attention to the conversations happening in workplaces, schools, and in the media, you’ve probably seen the letters DEI—short for Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. It’s a term that is frequently discussed, but what does it actually mean?

As a therapist, I see every day how deeply people are impacted by whether or not they feel like they belong—at work, in relationships, and in their communities. Let’s take a moment to talk about what DEI really means, not from a corporate or political lens, but from a human one.

Diversity: Who’s at the Table?

Diversity is about difference. It’s about having a mix of people with different races, cultures, genders, ages, body types, sexualities, faiths, abilities, backgrounds, and life experiences. In a diverse space, we’re not all the same, and that’s a good thing! Our differences bring richness and perspective. But diversity alone isn’t enough. Just being “at the table” doesn’t mean you feel welcome or valued.

Equity: Are We All Starting from the Same Place? 

Equity asks: Are the systems around us fair? Are we giving people what they actually need to thrive? Equality would be giving everyone the same pair of shoes. Equity is making sure the shoes actually fit. In therapy, I don’t give every client the same tools—I tailor support to each person’s needs, strengths, and story. That’s what equity looks like in real life: recognizing that people need different resources, opportunities, or support to have a fair chance.

Inclusion: Feeling Like We Belong

Inclusion is where the magic happens. It’s about creating spaces where people feel safe, respected, and like they truly belong. Not just tolerated, but valued. Not just included in name, but seen, heard, and appreciated. Inclusion is when you don’t have to hide parts of who you are to be accepted. It’s when people around you ask, “What do you need to feel safe here?” and their curiosity is genuine.

Why DEI Benefits Everyone

A common myth is that DEI only helps people from marginalized or underrepresented groups. The truth is, when we build spaces that are truly diverse, equitable, and inclusive, everyone Benefits. Think about the last time you felt like you didn’t have to perform to fit in. The last time someone really saw you. That feeling of safety and connection? That’s what DEI creates when it’s done right. In workplaces, DEI leads to better communication, more innovation, and stronger teams. In schools and communities, it helps people feel safer and more connected. In therapy, it creates room for healing across lines of difference.

DEI Is About Empathy

At its core, DEI isn’t just a program or policy—it’s a commitment to care for one another more fully. To listen better, to learn, and to notice who’s missing and who’s hurting. It’s about being willing to ask hard questions and stay curious. Whether you’re a client, a parent, a leader, or a neighbor, DEI isn’t something you have to know. It starts with simple questions: Who feels left out in this space? What would make this feel more welcoming? How can I show up differently?

We all want to feel safe, respected, and like we belong. DEI is simply one way of making that possible—for everyone.

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Describing the Rainbow: A Pride Month Glossary

Jaclyn Baker

By : Collin King

“If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.” –Audre Lorde

In the last decade, visibility for the LGBTQ+ community has grown dramatically. With it has come a broader, ever-evolving vocabulary for talking about identities beyond the heterosexual and cisgender “norm.”

While this ecosystem of terms can sometimes feel overwhelming to parse, having even a basic knowledge of commonly used concepts goes a long way toward communicating with knowledge and respect.

We invite you to use this glossary not as a homework assignment or a definitive guideline, but as a jumping-off point for learning more about people who might (or might not!) be different from you.

Sexuality / Sexual Orientation

How someone engages (or does not engage) with sex, attraction, romance, and desire. This often includes the gender(s) of their preferred sexual or romantic partners. Many of these terms exist on a spectrum, so someone’s use of a term may reflect a “closest fit” rather than a precise, fixed category.

Asexual / Ace

A person (of any gender) who does not experience sexual attraction to others. Some asexual people experience romantic attraction and form
romantic relationships, but they do not experience sexual desire.

Bisexual / Bi

A person (of any gender) who is romantically or sexually attracted to more than one gender. While it was historically defined as attraction to “both men and women,” many bisexual people now use the term in a broader, more gender-inclusive way.

Demisexual / Demi
A person who only experiences sexual attraction after forming a strong emotional bond. Demisexual people often report that attraction is not based
on physical traits or first impressions.

Gay

A man who is romantically or sexually attracted to other men. Also an umbrella term for anyone attracted to the same gender. The term “gay” is generally preferred over “homosexual,” which can feel clinical or outdated.

Lesbian

A woman who is romantically or sexually attracted to other women. Like “gay,” this term is usually preferred over “homosexual.”

Pansexual / Pan

A person who can be attracted to people of any/all genders, or who is attracted regardless of gender.

Polyamorous / Poly
A person who engages in consensual, ethical non-monogamous romantic and sexual relationships. While not specifically a sexual orientation, many people practice polyamory in a variety of forms.

Heterosexual / Straight

A person (usually cisgender) who is romantically or sexually attracted only to people of the “opposite” gender. The term is sometimes used to refer
broadly to people who are not LGBTQ+.

Sex

A biological descriptor based on physical markers like reproductive anatomy and chromosomes. While sex is distinct from gender, the two are often related.

Intersex

A person whose sex characteristics (such as anatomy or chromosomes) don’t fit typical definitions of “male” or “female.” Intersex people can have any gender identity or sexual orientation.

Gender

A complex, dynamic combination of social, cultural, historical, and psychological factors that influence how masculinity, femininity, and other gender expressions are understood.

Gender Identity

A person’s internal experience of gender—how they identify in relation to masculinity, femininity, both, or neither. This identity may or may not align with the sex they were assigned at birth.

Assigned at Birth

The label (such as “M” or “F”) given to a person at birth, typically based on external anatomy.

Gender Presentation

How someone expresses their gender outwardly—through clothing, behavior, speech, and appearance. Gender presentation has varied greatly across time and culture.

Pronouns & Identity Language

Pronouns

Words used to refer to someone without using their name (e.g., they, she, he, them, ours, hers, his, etc.).

Used Pronouns

The pronouns someone uses and identifies with. For example, if someone lists “Alex (she/they)” on a name tag, it means Alex is comfortable being referred to as either “she” or “they.”

Example:

“How’s Alex?” → “They’re doing well.”
“How’s Alex?” → “I haven’t heard from her lately.”

“What pronouns do you use?” or “What are your pronouns?” is often seen as a more affirming question than “What pronouns do you prefer?”

Gender Identity Terms

Cisgender / Cis

A person whose gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth. The prefix “cis” comes from Latin, meaning “on the same side.”

Transgender / Trans
A person whose gender identity is different from the sex assigned to them at birth. The prefix “trans” means “across” or “beyond.”

Transition

The process (social, legal, medical, or personal) by which a transgender person aligns their life with their gender identity. Transition can look different for everyone.

MTF (Male to Female)

A term—primarily used in medical or legal contexts—for a transgender woman. The final letter (F) denotes the person’s current gender identity.

FTM (Female to Male)

A term—also primarily medical—for a transgender man. The final letter (M) denotes the person’s current gender identity.

Non-Binary / Enby

A person whose gender identity doesn’t fall within the categories of “man” or “woman.” Many non-binary people use “they” as a pronoun. Some
non-binary people may identify themselves as under the “trans umbrella,” and others may not.

Two-Spirit / 2S

A pan-Indigenous term used by some Native American and First Nations people to describe a third-gender or non-binary role in their culture. It is a sacred and cultural identity that should only be used by Indigenous people, and it varies in meaning across different tribal nations.

Community & Allyship

Queer
Once a slur, this word has been reclaimed by many LGBTQ+ people and is now commonly used as an umbrella term. It is broad and inclusive, often used in place of the full LGBTQIA2+ acronym. For some, the term “queer” is still felt as a slur, so it is best not to refer to someone as queer  unless they have done so themselves.

Ally

A person outside of the queer community—often a cisgender or heterosexual person—who actively supports, uplifts, and defends the rights and dignity of queer people.

Folks / Folx
A gender-inclusive term used to address groups without defaulting to “you guys” or using clinical language like “gender-non-conforming individuals.” The “x” (though not universally adopted) can signify a deliberate effort toward inclusivity and allyship.

And many, many more!

While these are some of the most common terms, this list is far from exhaustive. Language continues to evolve, and so do the ways people express identity. It’s natural to worry about getting things wrong—but in our work as therapists, we’ve found that most people are usually glad to talk about their identities when approached with respect, curiosity, and self-awareness. Whether or not you identify as LGBTQ+, we hope these definitions help you connect more authentically with the diverse folx around you.

Additional Resources

 

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Intergenerational Trauma and Stonewall’s Anniversary

Jaclyn Baker

By Claire Butcher

Stonewall’s Anniversary:

June 28th marks the 56th anniversary of the Stonewall riots in New York City, marking the origin of the modern LGBTQ+ rights movement. The six day long uprising was one of multiple rebellions that erupted after a history of police targeting queer spaces and criminalizing LGBTQ+ people. That night, Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera were the two BIPOC Stonewall Inn patrons to resist the police and throw the first bottles and bricks, beginning what we now remember as the Stonewall riots. Despite Stonewall marking the beginning of present-day queer and trans rights movements, much work still needs to be done.

Current systemic oppression is informed by the past – LGBTQ+ people are fighting many of the same battles stemming from years ago, leading to intergenerational trauma from victimization. 

Systemic Oppression and Trauma: 

It is important to note that systemic trauma did not end with the police brutality that jump-started Stonewall. Current legislation targeting queer and trans communities has specifically ramped up starting in 2022. The ACLU tracks Anti-LGBTQ bills attacking free speech, healthcare access, education, public accommodation, and more. Recent executive orders claiming to “restore biological truth” and “defend women against gender ideology extremism”, along with slashing DEI programs and funding for LGBTQ+ healthcare research, are a few examples of the past informing the present. Despite many of these bills and orders being fought, that does not mean they’re not harmful for the community. 

One day before Stonewall’s anniversary is National PTSD Awareness Day. The LGBTQ+ community is no stranger to the many experiences that can lead to post-traumatic stress – family rejection, physical and sexual violence, harassment, systemic discrimination and the minority stress that follows. Research shows that LGBTQ+ individuals are four times more likely to experience violent assault, making them more susceptible to developing PTSD in the future. Research in 2020 estimated around 48% of “LGB” individuals and 42% of transgender individuals in America meet criteria for the diagnosis. Lack of access to mental health care can exacerbate these symptoms, leading to increased risk of self-harm and suicide. More than half of LGBTQ+ youth in the U.S. were not able to get the mental healthcare they needed in the past year. 

The struggles that the LGBTQ+ community faces today are very similar to the ones we saw 56 years ago, manifesting into intergenerational trauma in the community. Intergenerational trauma is the “transmission of trauma” from past psychological damage to subsequent generations. This can take the form of hypervigilance, depression, suicidality, low self-esteem, substance use issues, and more. 

Building Resilience: 

Just as intergenerational trauma in the LGBTQ+ community is real, so is the resilience built in response. Enduring systemic trauma should not be required to build resilience. Brittaney Latta (LMFT) empowers clients and community to use our control to fuel ourselves to endure struggles to come. This can take the form of:

  • Remembering and retelling stories to build connection
  • Joining local queer/trans organizations to engage in community
  • Attending pride and social events to fight isolation
  • Staying informed and aware of current legislation impacting the community
  • Advocating for social justice and inclusive protections
  • Strengthening yourself by engaging in hobbies and surround yourself with loved ones
  • Fostering “Queer Joy” – in Brittaney’s words: “Make time for fun, laughter, and celebration. They are not frivolous. They are acts of rebellion”. 

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To My Immigrant Parent

Jaclyn Baker

By: Mindy Laroco 

Slow mornings are one of my favorite things. I am able to get up, get ready for the day, and eat, all on my own time (within reason of course, I haven’t forgotten the importance of being on time that you taught me). And as I sit here this morning, I’m overcome by a sense of gratitude for where I am. 

I’m sitting and drinking my coffee, wondering how I got here; being able to sit and take a breath, drinking my nectar of the gods, as I enjoy my morning before I go to work. I’m reluctant to admit that my first thought of how I found myself in such a privileged situation is that I worked hard. I went to school, did all my homework, and got good grades. I worked that minimum wage job through college and wore their tacky uniform. I did all of it, and I got myself here. 

But then, as I get deeper in my reflections, I think of you. I think of how I was only able to work hard because you worked harder. I think of the stories you’ve told me about how many miles you walked to school, whether in sunshine or rain, just to be able to get an education. How you shared a room and bed with all of your siblings until you were blessed with the opportunity to go to college. I think of how you put in so much effort to get your degree, only to move to another country and start over, all in the name of a better life, for you and for me. My thoughts go to how difficult it must have been for you to move here and not know how to say the words that so easily came to me and from my mouth as you raised me.

And I remember that things like education, technology, easy transportation, plumbing, and other things that have been so readily available to me are dreams come true for you. I think about how the life I’m experiencing is only possible because you were brave enough to pursue your dreams, and, because of that, I have been privileged enough to pursue mine. So as I sip my coffee on this slow morning, I remember that I am here because of you.

Finding Beauty in the Muddle: How to Appreciate Life Every Day

Jaclyn Baker

Life can often feel like a whirlwind—filled with work, responsibilities and endless to-do lists. In the midst of it all, it’s easy to miss the simple moments of beauty that surround us. But as a seasoned nurse in palliative care, put it, “I find the beauty in the muddle.” Despite the challenges she faces daily, she radiates joy and compassion, choosing to focus on the positive, even in difficult times.

Why Mindfulness Matters

Mindfulness is all about being fully present in the moment, allowing us to savor life’s small joys, like the warmth of the sun or the sound of laughter. It’s a practice that helps us appreciate the beauty in the mundane and the messy parts of life. Whether it’s the joy of a child’s smile or a quiet moment with a loved one, mindfulness helps us notice and savor these fleeting experiences.

Start Practicing Gratitude Today

Appreciation isn’t always easy, but it’s transformative. Even in the busiest days, there are moments of joy waiting to be noticed. Take a step back and intentionally appreciate the small things: the taste of your morning coffee, the laughter of friends, or the beauty of nature around you. Every small moment of gratitude helps shift your perspective and bring more joy into your life.

A Simple Practice to Cultivate Appreciation

To get started, try this simple practice: each day, choose one thing you love and pay full attention to it. Whether it’s a moment of stillness during your walk or a conversation with a friend, truly be present and savor the experience. Appreciate the sensations, feelings, and thoughts that arise. Over time, this practice will help you see the beauty in the muddle, allowing you to find more joy in your everyday life.

Appreciating the life you have takes practice, but the rewards are endless. Mindfulness can help you see the world with new eyes, noticing beauty where you once overlooked it. So, slow down, savor the moment, and appreciate the life you have.



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Feeling Drained by Social Media? Let’s Talk Doomscrolling and Comparison

Jaclyn Baker

By Nooshi Ghasedi, MA, NCC

Most of us spend time on social media—to relax, catch up with friends, or take a quick break from real life. But sometimes, instead of feeling more connected or uplifted, we log off feeling more anxious or discouraged.

Two common patterns many people experience are doomscrolling and comparison spirals.

Let’s break down what’s happening, and how to regain a sense of balance.

Doomscrolling: When the Scroll Becomes a Spiral

Have you ever opened an app just to check one quick thing, and 20 minutes later you’re reading one heartbreaking news story after another? That’s doomscrolling: the tendency to compulsively scroll through upsetting or negative content, even when it’s making us feel worse. Doomscrolling often happens late at night or during times of uncertainty. We think we’re “staying informed” or welcoming a distraction from a stressful day, but what we’re really doing is playing into our brain’s “threat detection system” and flooding it with information it doesn’t have time to process or recover from.

Too much of this can leave you feeling:

  • Overwhelmed or helpless
  • Anxious and restless
  • Emotionally numb or disconnected
  • Exhausted, even without doing anything “active”

While it would be unrealistic to encourage you to avoid all news or social media, it is possible to be more intentional with what, when, and how much we consume. The Comparison Trap: Everyone’s Best Moments, None of the Context While doomscrolling often focuses on the negative, social comparison is its sneakier cousin. On platforms full of filtered smiles, curated travel photos, career wins, and romantic gestures, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking “Why doesn’t my life look like that?”

You might notice thoughts like:

  • They’re doing so much more than I am.”
  • “I’ll never look that good / be that happy / have that kind of relationship.”
  • “I’m falling behind.”

The problem? You’re comparing your real, unfiltered life to someone else’s highlight reel. You don’t see their stress, struggles, or insecurities—just the best 1% of what they choose to share. Social comparison can quietly erode your mental health by:

  • Fueling self-doubt and low self-esteem
  • Increasing anxiety or depressive thoughts
  • Distracting you from your own goals and values
  • Creating pressure to “perform” or present a perfect life online

What You Can Do to Protect Your Mental Space

Social media isn’t all bad—it can be fun, creative, and even healing when used mindfully. Here are a few ideas to help create healthier habits:

Be aware of your patterns. Start noticing when you tend to scroll (late at night? when you’re stressed?) and how you feel afterward. That awareness is powerful. 

Curate your feed. Unfollow or mute accounts that trigger comparison or negativity. 

Seek out pages that educate, encourage, or bring genuine joy.

Set boundaries. Try screen time limits, log-off hours, or “no scroll” zones like during meals or right before bed.

Reframe your self-talk. When you catch yourself in comparison, gently redirect:

“This is one moment from their life. I don’t know the full story.” “I’m allowed to grow at my own pace.”

Take intentional breaks. Step away for a weekend or even just a day. See how you feel. 

Often, even a little distance can help reset your relationship with your feed.

Final Thoughts

If social media has started to feel more draining than enjoyable, that’s worth paying attention to. You’re not overreacting, and you’re definitely not alone. Many of us are navigating an online world that wasn’t designed with mental wellness in mind. You can take back control—not by quitting cold turkey, but by being more intentional, compassionate, and curious about how online spaces are shaping your thoughts and feelings.

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