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Dealing With and Overcoming Guilt

Jaclyn Baker
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Even though guilt is natural and we all experience it from time – time, that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with.

Guilt can be exhausting, overwhelming and take a toll on our energy levels.

Even though guilt can be hard to process and understand, you can overcome it. Keep on reading to learn more. 

Notice It:

The very first thing you have to do is notice your guilt. Simply noticing your feelings can help you come to terms with them and understand them.

Ask Yourself Questions:

Once you’ve become aware of your guilt, you can start studying it.

Here are a handful of questions that can help you get started…

1) Why am I feeling guilty?

2) Am I exaggerating anything?

3) Where is my guilt coming from?

4) Is there anything I can do to help my guilt subside. 

Ask for Forgiveness:

We can’t control how others think and feel. At the end of the day we can only control our actions and thoughts.

Whenever you’ve let someone down, generally, the first step to moving forward is issuing a sincere apology.

But you don’t need to stop there.

Forgiving yourself is just as important (if not more) than asking for forgiveness.

We all make mistakes, and no one in this world is perfect. In order to move on from difficult events, it’s important to forgive yourself and truly mean it.

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Let’s Talk Silver Linings

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Every event has a silver lining. Sometimes you just have to look for it. Here are 4 silver linings that have come out of the pandemic. 

Family Time

Before the pandemic, most of us would spend the vast majority of our days at work/school, commuting and running errands.

Right now, leaving the house is a very rare event. Now that most of us are working and learning from home, we have so much more free time to spend with our family. 

Families can eat all three meals together seven days a week. 

Siblings can help each other with homework assignments.

And couples can spend more quality one on one time together.

Coronavirus has helped bring so many family members closer together and help deepen relationships. 

Making New Friends

It’s easy to assume that social distancing would only make it harder to connect with friends. But that’s not the case. Not all of us feel comfortable attending large events or hanging out in crowds.  Some people feel more relaxed and natural communicating via video chat or texting.

The pandemic has made it much easier for us to reach out to older friends and even make new ones. 

Comfort + Practically

There’s nothing like having a fully stocked fridge 5 feet away from your workspace. There’s also nothing like working in pyjama pants and slippers every day.

Of course, some people love dressing up and having somewhere to go. But that doesn’t mean they love that every single day. Now, pyjama day is technically every day. 

Professional Development

Networking events are a fantastic way to meet like-minded people and industry professionals. The only downside is, not all networking events take place our backyard.

Virtual networking events have always been around. But they were nowhere near as popular as they are now.  Now, we have the opportunity to virtually network with people all over the world! 

No matter what industry you are in, you can never have too many connections. 

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Positive Outcomes of Divorce

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Going through a divorce is far from easy. It truly is a loss and can even be traumatic. However, even the most difficult situations have a silver lining.

Here are 4 positive outcomes of divorce.

It’s Liberating:

In life, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

You don’t have to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy or brings on stress and anxiety.

We only live one life. You deserve to spend it with people who make you happy and feel like the best version of yourself. 

It’s Hopeful: 

You know what they say. When one door closes, another one opens. Leaving a bad relationship opens up the door for a new and healthy relationship. There are so many people out there in this world, and you never know who you’ll meet. 

You Get Stronger:

You are so much stronger than you give yourself credit for.

We all have our own grieving process. It may take weeks, months or even years to recover from a divorce. But things will get better.

Every day you will get stronger. Every day will become easier. 

It Can Benefit The Kids:

It’s normal for couples to stay in unhappy marriages because they think it’s best for the kids. 

However, sometimes divorcing is the best thing you can do for both yourself and the children.

It’s important for parents to model healthy relationship behaviour.

Kids pick up on more details than you may think. Seeing their parents constantly arguing or unhappy can impact them now and later in life.

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The 4 R’s to Managing Stress

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Ready to learn the 4 R’s to managing stress? Keep on reading to learn more. 

Reject

The first step to successfully managing stress is to eliminate as many stressors as possible. 

Not sure where to begin? Here’s what to do!

Sit down and write out a list of 5 – 10 things that are currently stressing you out.

Once you have your list ready, start brainstorming and see if there is anything you can do to make those situations a little less stressful.

Here’s an example. Let’s say your dishwasher broke, and you’ve been stressing out over all the extra housework. 

You have two choices. You can either do all the dishes yourself, or you can ask for some help. Never be afraid to ask for help when you need it. 

Reframe

Unfortunately, we can’t reject everything that causes us stress.

But we can reframe the events. It all comes down to mindset shifts.

Let’s say driving in heavy traffic really stresses you out. 

Of course, we can try our best to avoid rush hour, but sometimes life doesn’t work that way. 

The next time you are stuck in traffic, instead of feeling stressed, you can take the opportunity to sing along to your favorite radio station or catch up on some podcasts.

Relieve

Next, it’s time to relieve stress.

Sometimes rejecting and refreshing stressful situations isn’t enough. And that’s okay.

There are several healthy activities that can help you relieve stress.

You can go on a walk, take a hot shower, meditate or watch some TV. 

Refresh

Even though we can’t travel right now, there are plenty of ways you can feel refreshed right at home. 

You know yourself better than anyone. Whatever activities tend to relax you, go ahead and do them!

Even going to sleep an hour earlier after a tough day can be very helpful. 

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Secrets to Achieving a Healthy Work-Life Balance

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Right now, so many of us are either working nonstop or not enough. We all have those days where we work through lunch or lounge around the house for a little too long once in a while. 

But if we aren’t careful those once in a while habits can turn into a daily thing. 

It may take some time, but you have what it takes to work from home successfully. 

Set a Schedule

Have you ever had one of those mornings where you woke up and immediately jumped into work?

Our morning sets the tone for our entire day and starting work right away can be a little overwhelming. A good rule of thumb is to set your alarm around 30 – 60 minutes before your workday begins. That should give you enough time to have breakfast and relax before the work begins. 

Even though you are working from home, you still deserve to have an enjoyable morning routine. 

Stop Replying to Emails After Hours

Have you ever been tempted to reply to just one email at 9 pm?

The thing is, before you know it, that one email can easily turn into five emails.

Just because your office is now at home, doesn’t mean your home is a 24/7 office.

Scheduling phone calls after work hours can cause stress and prevent you from pursuing hobbies and having me-time. You need to set a distinction between working hours and home hours.

Create a Daily Task List

While working at home, it’s easy to become distracted by personal tasks. Writing out a daily task list and prioritizing tasks by order of importance can make your days run much smoother.

Take Your Lunch Seriously

Working through lunch may seem like a good idea at the moment. But that is far from the truth.

Most of us take 30 – 60-minute lunch breaks at the office, there’s no reason lunch breaks at home can’t be the same. If you have a difficult time remembering to eat lunch, feel free to set an alarm.

Lunch is all about breaking up the day and of giving our body the energy needed to keep going.

Say Goodbye to Distractions

We all have our own way of working. Some of us do our best work with a little bit of background noise, while others need complete silence. No one knows the answer to that other than you. 

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Coping With Video Chat Fatigue

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Since most of us are working from home – it’s not uncommon to spend several hours a week on video calls.

Everything from coordinating the call to dealing with technical difficulties can be exhausting.

Participating in several video conferencing sessions in a row can be stressful and draining. 

The good news is, there are several tips and tricks that can help prevent fatigue and burnout. 

Take Short and Regular Breaks:

Some video conference calls can be as short as ten minutes or as long as 2 hours. 

Two hour-long meetings can take up a lot of brainpower – especially if you’re the one doing the majority of the talking.

Actually, walking away from the screen during a company-wide meeting can feel a little awkward, but there are ways you can work around it.

You can step out of the room for just a few minutes to prepare a cup of coffee or do some light stretching.

You may be surprised how refreshed you’ll feel afterwards. 

Try and Find Other Alternatives:

Now, video chatting is a fantastic way for large teams to connect and bounce ideas off one another. It’s also nice seeing familiar faces – especially while we are stuck at home.

However, video conferencing isn’t always necessary for a quick one on one call.

Life isn’t perfect. Sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do. But at the same time, it’s important to listen to your body and give it what it needs within reason.

If you’re having a stressful day, don’t be afraid to ask your co-worker if your Zoom meeting can take place over the phone or via email instead.

It never hurts to ask.

Take a Step Back:

When you’re stressed out or overtired, sometimes the best thing you can do is take a mental health day or pass on a meeting. 

It’s very difficult to do a job and to do it well when you’re burned out or overwhelmed. No one is perfect. No one can do it all. Never feel guilty for taking time for yourself. Learn More

3 Ways Teachers Can Cope With COVID-19 Related Stress

Jaclyn Baker
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If you’re a teacher, this article is for you. COVID-19 has impacted almost all professions in one way or another. Teaching classes online is great – but it isn’t quite the same as being in a classroom and connecting with students.

As you know, teachers do so much more than simply read lesson plans and mark tests.

Teachers keep an eye on their students and watch them grow and thrive.

They are also there to support them and offer guidance. 

Doing all of that isn’t so easy via a computer screen. Especially since it’s difficult to read body language online.

If you’ve been experiencing any stress on the job, keep on reading. 

Pace Yourself

Teaching virtually is a marathon, not a sprint. Of course, it’s normal to want to push yourself in order to give your students the best education possible. But you can’t push yourself too hard. Doing so can lead to burnout, fatigue and stress. 

Just like when we work out, our body needs time to recover and repair itself.

Whenever you have a bad day, the best thing you can do is relax, have a healthy dinner and go to bed early.

Working well into the night will only exhaust you more. 

Don’t Hold In Your Anger

If you’re experiencing anger right now, you are not alone.

Just because you aren’t the only one feeling a certain way, doesn’t always make the situation any easier.

Sometimes we can keep our feelings in and hope they will pass on their own.

The thing is, keeping anger inside can actually intensify it.

It can also make us lash out and say things we don’t mean to the people we love the most.

There are several tried and tested methods out there that help control anger. 

1) Go on a walk.

2) Stretch.

3) Journal.

4) Take a time out.

Let People Help You

Unfortunately superheroes don’t exist. You are only human and no human is perfect.

Don’t get us wrong, it’s a great thing to set goals and try new things. But at the time, you can set unrealistic expectations.

If you’re ever feeling emotionally drained after a hard day but still have to prepare dinner and run errands, don’t be afraid to ask for help.

If there is anything your family can do to make things easier around the house, don’t be afraid to let them know.

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These Techniques Can Help You Cope With Work-Related Stress

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Just because the vast majority of us are working from home now, doesn’t make the workday any less stressful.

Deadlines still need to met, customers still need support, and proposals have to be approved. 

Even though stress can keep us motivated and on top of our game, no one wants to constantly feel stressed.

Here are a few techniques that can help you cope with work-related stress.

Start Your Day Right:

Our morning sets the tone of the entire day. Feeling rushed in the morning is not a pleasant feeling. Everything from making breakfast to checking homework can be a lot.

Waking up just 20 minutes early and relaxing can help you start your day on a positive note.

Stay Organized:

Have you ever had one of those days where you just couldn’t find any important documents or emails? 

You know it’s on your computer somewhere, you just can’t remember where. 

Properly labelling files and having some sort of an email system can prevent several problems down the line. 

Embrace Imperfection:

We are all human mistakes do happen.

Instructions get misunderstood, important emails get lost, presentations have typos, the list goes on.

The next time you make a mistake, don’t panic! Instead, take a step back and remind yourself that you are only human and even though you made a mistake you are doing the best you can.

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How To Become More Resilient And Embrace The New Normal

Jaclyn Baker
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Adjusting to the new normal is definitely easier than done. The new normal is constantly changing and our days are full of uncertainty.

Everything from school to work to home life is like something we’ve never experienced before. When life is so uncertain, it’s normal to experience stress, exhaustion or burnout. 

Now, you may be wondering how you can adjust to an ever-changing situation. Keep on reading to learn more. 

Accept That Life is Different Right Now:

It’s no secret that 2020 has been far different than 2019, and so many things that used to be easy, now feel so hard.

Remember, accepting a tough situation does not mean you are giving up. It simply means you are accepting reality instead of fighting it.

Do What You Love:

When life gets busy, sometimes we can forget to take the time to do what we love. Even though we may not be able to go to restaurants or spend time with friends, that doesn’t mean we can’t have fun at home.

Instead of attending your favourite restaurant on Friday night, you can order takeout and dress up.

Instead of going out with your friends on Saturday night, you can have a group zoom call.

It may not be the exact same, but it is much better than nothing.

Build a Resilience Bank Account:

You are so much more resilient than you give yourself credit for. You just may not know it yet. 

It is never too late to start implementing resilience-building habits. Getting enough sleep, eating right, exercising and practicing compassion are all great places to start. 

You also don’t have to make significant changes in one day. You can start slow and work your way up. Starting slowly is far better than not starting at all. Learn More

How To Survive a Family Members Suicide

Jaclyn Baker
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Losing a friend or family member to suicide can be extremely painful. It can bring on guilt, shame, anger, depression or anxiety.

We all deal with loss in our own way, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Losing someone you love is never easy. However, losing someone you love to suicide can be a little more challenging.

It may take you some time, but you will get through the pain. Here are some tips that can help you cope with your loss. 

Find A Support System:

Losing someone you love is extremely painful. But you don’t need to experience the pain alone.

Opening up to a friend, family member or mental health professional can be very therapeutic. Talking about our feelings can help us better understand them and feel less alone.

You can also do some research and see if there any support groups in your area. Even though you may feel alone, you are not!

Be Patient:

Some days may be harder than others, and that’s okay. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to feel. 

It’s Okay to Laugh And Cry:

You know what they say – laughter is the best medicine. Participating in fun activities with friends and family can act as a healthy distraction and help take your mind off the pain. 

Every day is a new day. And every day will get a little bit easier.

If you or someone you love are struggling with thoughts about harming themselves or others, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

You can also text the Crisis Text Line at: 741741

Text Line is free and available 24/7 to support those in crisis anywhere in the U.S.

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