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Overcoming Procrastination in 2022

I don’t know what I should do.

I am afraid I will fail.

I keep getting distracted.

I don’t have what it takes to move forward. 

If any of those thoughts sound familiar, you are not alone. Starting something new can be scary. And when something scares us, we can often procrastinate. 

The limiting beliefs we listed above are feelings. And feelings are not facts. 

Just because something feels true doesn’t mean it is. Remember – limiting beliefs are easy to form. But they are also easy to break. 

Success Breeds Success

Small wins are far from small.

Appreciating and acknowledging previous small wins can give you a newfound confidence boost when you need it the most.

Thinking about previous success stories can help remind you that you are strong and have what it takes to succeed in whatever you want to do. 

The next time you catch yourself feeling afraid to start a new task – don’t dive in headfirst. Instead, do something unrelated that you know you excel in.

Doing so can help get your creative juices flowing and your confidence soaring.

Having No Limits is Limiting

Being faced with too many options can be stressful. 

Having unlimited options in front of us can often lead to feelings of indecisiveness.  

Instead of spending time and energy sorting through dozens of options, pick the one that feels best at that moment.

You can always change your mind later on if need be.

Act The Way You Want to Feel

It’s so easy to tell yourself, “I will go to the gym or apply for that job once I feel motivated.”

When we wait for motivation, we risk it never finding us.  

When we go out and find motivation, we secure it.

We can’t always force ourselves to feel a certain way out of the blue. 

However, we can go out of our way to engage in activities that we know bring us joy, confidence and motivation.

If listening to a certain song makes you feel upbeat and motivated, listen to it more often!

“Action will destroy your procrastination.”  – Og Mandino

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New Year’s Resolutions – Stages of Change

By: Tanya Kramer, LPC

Everyone’s New Year’s resolution journey is unique, and what works for someone else may not work for you.

With that being said, here are a handful of best practices that may be able to help you set resolutions this year.

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Consider what “Stage of Change” you are at right now. 

Please see the Stages of Change graphic above. 

Once you’ve acknowledged where you are at now, see if you can move a step closer to taking action. 

Then you can decide if you are ready to take action by January 1st. If you are not, that is completely fine – don’t rush it. 

Make a plan before taking action and then decide when you would like to start taking action. 

On the designated date, take action on your resolution. This date doesn’t have to be January 1st if you need more time.

If you slip, hold yourself with grace. What did you learn? Are there additional steps you may need to add to your plan? Take action again.

How Do I Make a Plan Before Taking “Action”?

While creating your plan, you’ll want to think about the current patterns and behaviours you would like to change.

You will also want to see if anything needs to be addressed before getting started. 

If you are a visual learner, it can be helpful to draw yourself a map.

Brainstorm any barriers that might impact your success and then come up with possible solutions. 

ExampleQuitting Smoking

 

In the example above – the individual realized that they tend to smoke while studying, in the morning, when they are bored, and during social events. 

Quitting smoking or any habit for that matter can’t be achieved overnight, and there may be some setbacks along the way.

Now, setbacks are all part of the process. Even if your journey doesn’t turn out as planned or takes a bit longer than anticipated, don’t give up!

You can achieve anything you set your mind to!

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National Religious Freedom Day

National Religious Freedom Day on January 16th is a time to commemorate the signing of the Virginia Statute for Religious Freedom drafted by Thomas Jefferson on January 16th, 1786. 

This statute became the basis for the establishment clause and led to the freedom of religion in America. It meant that people of different faiths could freely express their own religious beliefs. Giving everyone the right to believe in a religion, change their religion, or choose not to follow any religion. 

Today, we can remember and celebrate this day by recognizing the diversity in our communities and in the world. We all have a right to practice our religions but must also remember to mutually respect each other’s beliefs, even if they are different from ours. There is no one right way to experience and express religion, so this day is a reminder to respect all of the different ways that people express their beliefs, as long as they are not harming another person or group.

Religion is often an important part of people’s culture and a way that they can experience a connection to their community, family and ancestors. ​​Religion can be a key factor in the cultural identity of many people, influencing their behavior and traditions. Prayer, rituals and art are some of the ways people show their involvement in a particular religion. 

We can learn about the rich history of religions that have helped to shape humanity by reading relevant books or watching videos about these topics. 

Understanding and empathy are two key concepts to focus on National Religious Freedom Day. 

For more information, visit the resources below: 

Religious Freedom Day | Guidebook

Religious Freedom Day Resources For Educators 

Religious Freedom Day Resources For Parents

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International Human Rights Day

December 10 marks International Human Rights Day. It is a time to familiarize ourselves with and recognize the rights that everyone is entitled to as a human, regardless of race, religion, gender, nationality, or social status.

This day was created after the signing of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights on December 10, 1948. It was the first legal document that advocated for fundamental human rights to be universally protected.

The United Nations website indicates that the themes of this year are Equality and Article 1 of the UDHR that states “All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights.”

Additionally, they promote the idea that the path to a more fair society that addresses poverty, inequality and discrimination is by adopting measures that are grounded in human rights. You can find more information on their website International Human Rights Day.  

Explore additional resources below:

Human Rights Day Information & Resources For Kids 

Universal Declaration Of Human Rights Timeline 

11 Books To Read For Human Rights Day

What Are The Universal Human Rights? – Benedetta Berti | YouTube

Feeling Stuck in Life?

Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you worked, you continued to stay stuck in the same spot in life?

It can almost feel like you are stuck living on autopilot.

Routine and consistency don’t have to be perceived in a poor light.

It all comes down to the mindset we have behind our life and actions.  

Regain Your Power

Large goals simply are the outcome of many mini-goals.

Now, when you work towards mini-goals, you may not see significant results on a day-to-day basis. 

That does not mean your hard work isn’t paying off.

It simply means you have to measure your work on a different scale.

Instead of comparing your progress on a weekly basis – you may have to compare your progress on a monthly basis. 

Sometimes the smallest changes can guide us towards a newfound confidence. 

Love What You Do

You can get back in touch with yourself by doing what you love and by being yourself. 

If you’ve been putting something off for far too long – now is the time to jump back in. 

Getting back into the swing of doing things for ourselves can change our outlook on life. 

Keep in mind – it can be just as easy to procrastinate on activities we love as it is to procrastinate on activities we fear. 

The longer we procrastinate on anything in life, the harder it can be to take the plunge.

No matter what we say or do, time is going to pass.

We might as well spend our days doing things that make us happy. 

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The Power Of Bucket Lists

Goals come in many forms. 

We have big goals we’d like to accomplish in the next few years, mini-goals we’d like to accomplish every few days and then we have those dream goals we’d like to accomplish “one day.”

You know what? 

That “one day” goal may feel out of reach right now – but you are capable of so much more than you give yourself credit for. 

Did you know that we are much more likely to accomplish goals that are written down? 

Writing down goals or dreams can help make them feel more tangible and within reach.

Creating a dream list – also known as a bucket list can be a fun way to map out our goals, no matter how big or small they may be. 

There Are No Limits

You can do anything you set your mind to.

You have the power to create a life you love. 

Never stop thinking about and imagining all the endless possibilities.

Joy + Satisfaction 

How great do you feel after crossing something big off your list? 

Pretty great, right?!

Bucket lists are designed to bring joy and satisfaction. 

Every time we cross something off our list, it signifies a new milestone.

A New Sense Of Purpose

Bucket lists are a great way to map out the activities and experiences we want for ourselves. 

Don’t be afraid to dream!

Sitting down and reflecting on what you really want can give you a new sense of purpose. 

The future is bigger and brighter than any of us can imagine. 

You have the power to open your door to opportunities. 

“One way to keep momentum going is to have constantly greater goals.”– Michael Korda

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World Kindness Day – November 13th

November 13th is World Kindness Day! 

This international holiday was created to highlight and encourage good deeds in your community and to remind us that simple acts of kindness have great power.  Let your friends, family, and even strangers know that you appreciate them.  Saying thank you for an act of kindness can improve someone’s day. This day was created to help you realize that you can make a difference, one act at a time.

Here are some ideas for acts of kindness that you can try from inspirekindness.com.

  • Smile when you walk by others
  • Write positive messages on post-it notes and leave them for people to find
  • Call a relative you haven’t spoken to in a while 
  • Pick up trash you see on the ground outside and throw it in a garbage can
  • Hold the door open for someone
  • Chat with a stranger and ask them about their day
  • Pay for a stranger’s coffee or meal
  • Compliment someone
  • Send a positive or encouraging text to five people in your contacts
  • Surprise someone with flowers
  • Tell a family member or friend you love them
  • Write a note on the receipt at a restaurant for your server 
  • Offer to help with someone’s errands
  • Give a surprise gift to someone you care about
  • Send a kind card or note to a friend
  • Surprise co-workers with home-baked cookies or treats
  • Plant a tree
  • Spend less time on your phone and more time with people you care about
  • Organize a workplace giving campaign
  • Offer a classmate help with homework
  • Talk to someone new
  • Practice gratitude
  • Volunteer
  • Give someone a hug

 A small act of kindness can go a long way. 

For more information and ideas, check out these websites:

https://nationaltoday.com/world-kindness-day/

https://inspirekindness.com/world-kindness-day

National Stress Awareness Day

November 3rd is National Stress Awareness Day. This day is celebrated on the first Wednesday in November.  

Everyone experiences stress at times and it can even be beneficial as it can help you respond better to some situations. But too much stress can interfere with your quality of life and result in physical and mental issues. Learning how to identify and reduce stressors is why National Stress Awareness Day exists.

Here are some ideas for helping you to decrease stress:

You Can Learn More Here

National Stress Awareness Day 

Stress Management Tools And Resources

Stress Management: Breathing Exercises For Relaxation

Your Stress-Busting Checklist

How To Relax | 8 Relaxation Tips For Your Mental Health (YouTube)

Ways to Get Your Energy Back

Have you ever had one of those days that left you feeling emotionally and physically exhausted?

If you answered yes – you are not alone. We all have those days. 

We have more control over our energy than we give ourselves credit for. 

Just because you wake up one morning with low energy doesn’t mean that feeling will last the entire day. 

There are several little things you can do, starting from the moment you wake up that can help increase your energy – even if it’s just a little bit.

Remember To Smile

You know that saying fake it till you make it?

Well, smiling (even when you don’t feel like it) is the perfect example of that saying in action. 

Smiling can trick our brains into thinking we are happy and in a great mood. 

The next time you’re feeling drained or not your best, walk on over to your bathroom mirror and smile for 5 minutes. 

It may feel a little uncomfortable at first, but don’t knock until you try it. 

Take Your Time Getting Ready

Our morning routine can significantly impact the rest of our day.

Waking up ten minutes before you have to leave the house can be quite stressful and exhausting in itself.

Taking 30 minutes to an hour to take a long shower, pick out an outfit that makes you feel good and have a nice breakfast can help you walk into the day with a relaxed and upbeat mindset. 

Start Small

Not everything has to be done all at once. 

Knocking items off our list at a steady pace can help those more draining tasks feel simple and even fun.

The act of ticking items off of your list can be very motivating, which in turn can help increase our confidence and overall energy levels. 

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Getting to Know The Real You

Whether you realize it or not, you are constantly changing.

You are not the same person you were this time last year.

As time goes on, our values, goals, and ideas tend to evolve. 

You should never force yourself to participate in something that doesn’t feel right. 

But at the same time, you can never know how you feel about something unless you try (sometimes more than once). 

Setting Goals

Setting new goals and diving back into older ones can teach us a lot about ourselves.

Imagining your future self is just as important as discovering your present self.

Where would you like to be five years from now?

What can you start doing today that will help you get there?

We can’t expect great things to magically fall in our laps. 

We have to put the work in to make those dreams a reality. 

Describe Yourself

How would you describe yourself to a complete stranger?

Would you start listing your personality traits, family, goals, job, all of the above?

You are so much more than your job or your hobbies. 

Every single piece of you makes you who you are. 

List Your Values

What do you value in others and yourself? 

Do you care about community, authenticity, generosity?

Take a moment to write down the values you cherish in life. 

Putting these values down on paper can help you look at them in a new way and help them feel more tangible. 

Keep in mind – this list does not have to be a set-in-stone thing.

You can easily add new items to the list or even erase some as time goes on. 

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